[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

Alternatively, if you really prefer the rotating menu thing you could forget the food truck and do a supper club. Typically a reservation-only, once a week or once a month thing, or whenever you have time. If you could find a small local farm to partner with, they may be able to offer you dining or cooking space in return for showing off their veggies or something.

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 2 points 3 weeks ago

Check out Scavenger's Reign. Most original and outright weird story I've seen in an anime in years. And the worldbuilding is amazing.

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 1 points 3 weeks ago

I guess I don't understand this "professional career oriented program." Is it like a grad school? Is there a good chance all or some of you will end up working with each other at the same employer later? There should be lots of other places to find a partner. You must have some kind of social life outside of this program, right?

Dating is hard, but breaking up in a mutual way where both people can still respect each other is even harder. Imagine the drama there will be after you've dated a few people from this group. People in the program may take you less seriously because they think you're just there to find dates. But this is your career. Shouldn't you take it seriously?

If you really want to date someone there, you can, if you're smart about it (and make sure it's worth the risk, not just for any passing crush). But don't try to manipulate the whole group in order to do that. Don't use the chats to try to get close to someone. Do any non-professional stuff outside of the program, away from the others. Don't bring your relationship drama into the program, especially if the relationship ends. Think of all these rules as practice for how you will need to act professionally in your future career. That's what this program is for, isn't it?

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 6 points 3 weeks ago

I want to be friends and stay professional overall, while tapping into potential with the guy I like

These things are not really compatible. The sooner you learn that, you will have a lot less workplace drama. Your professional workplace should not be a dating pool. There is no reason to exclude the other women. Who cares if one of them lied? Are you the moral police? Just chill, and let people do what they want. You don't need to control the situation.

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 8 points 1 month ago

I just couldn't believe that after all those years living completely different and separate lives, neither of them changed their hair at all. And since the adult twins were played by the same actor, I couldn't tell them apart aside from clothing.

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

What exactly do you propose the "normies" do? Is there some non-corporation making road-worthy cars? No? Let me guess, you want a family of 5 to bike 2 hours to the nearest school/park/grocery store in the snow on rural roads with no shoulder just to avoid paying a corporation? Take the nonexistent train?

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 5 points 1 month ago

They also allowed overcrowding. You could basically put a Subway right next to another Subway if you wanted. 3-4 in a single neighborhood. Corporate does not care if the franchisees make any money.

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

And I would disagree with OP's definition entirely. What they describe sounds more like reputation or social standing, not honor.

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 8 points 2 months ago

The first four are remakes, but they're done very well.

Tokyo Vice

Shogun (not exactly a crime thriller but it will suck you in)

Ripley (shot like a black and white film from the 40's, good even if you've seen the Matt Damon movie)

Perry Mason

Yellowjackets

Altered Carbon

Big Little Lies

Nine Perfect Strangers

Dark Winds

If you like crime comedy, try White Lotus, Dead to Me, Search Party, Only Murders in the Building, Flight Attendant, and The Woman in the House Across the Street from the Girl in the Window.

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 9 points 2 months ago

Are people really taking those statements as actual support?? Politicians have to come out and condemn things like that. Everyone kinda knows it's just lip service, but it would be weirder if they didn't say anything. It's just tradition. It's not like Zelensky or Obama or Sanders actually want to protect Trump's ability to run now. But I do think they're glad he wasn't assassinated, because that would have made everything worse.

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago

And what happens when you start a family and then... get tired of them? Get annoyed by them? Children can be absolute twats, and it takes them a long time to grow up. We all have low points with our spouses. Those kinds of relationships take a lot of social stamina, which you claim you don't really have. Think about what it might do to your child if things don't work out the way you planned. Let's say you don't feel the kind of love for them that you expected to. What would stop you from ghosting them, either emotionally or physically?

[-] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 28 points 2 months ago

... Nah. As a woman, this is not a question I would ever think to ask anyone, regardless of how unsafe I felt. How does agreeing to murder someone AFTER something happens to you help you feel more safe? It doesn't, at all. Besides, she could have called him from the Uber when she didn't see him outside. It's not like they just kick you out of the car immediately.

OP described this behavior as "the usual," which means this is a thing she does regularly. I would say this isn't normal for most people to do regularly. If the location is actually not safe, then the conversation should be centered around "when are we going to move somewhere safer?" rather than "how would you murder someone if they hurt me" and especially getting into the specifics of "what would you do with the cat while doing the murder...?" I think this might be some kind of recurring "daycare" or maladaptive fantasy that keeps playing out in her imagination. There are certainly steps she could take to keep herself safe. But because she doesn't, she feels powerless and then blames OP for her perceived lack of safety. OP cannot be responsible for her safety 24/7. That is an unfair expectation to have of anyone.

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