Ask Lemmy

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I'll start with the wholly negative effects of hitting children, specifically the section on Effects on Behaviour and Development. Time and time again, scientific studies prove there is literally no benefit to hitting children, with only poor outcomes.

My understanding is the most effective means of punishment involve first establishing an environment of rich support and love for the child. Then when there's poor behaviour, short time outs.

You remember that episode of The Simpsons when Bart steals the game cartridge, and what upsets him most is Marge's total loss of attention?

A secondary strong punishment is removal of positives, like revoking video game access etc.

It's hard to critique whatever parents you mention without knowing specifics, but it often comes down to:

• Poor follow through, with parents threatening punishment but rarely enacting
• Limited positive attention given to the child, likely due to "no time"
• Poor communication of reward/punishment system, or poorly established system.

Finally, sometimes children and just little shits with bad temperament. It's vital to understand that countless studies show physical abuse does not result in corrective behaviour, with only negative developmental outcomes.

As a US citizen you are technically always responsible for paying taxes no matter where you live. The US has a citizenship-based tax system (you owe on worldwide income regardless of where you live). Most other countries in the world have only a residency-based system (you owe only if you are actively living in that particular country). You are still required to file every year and you're going to need someone more sophisticated than the dude at H&R Block or a free Quickbooks whatever. You need someone who is comfortable working with expats.

"Doesn't that mean I have to pay taxes for both the US and my new country then?" No. The US has dual taxation agreements with most countries. That means that, basically, the US will not charge you taxes for things you've already been taxed for.

The main goal of paying less in taxes is to reduce your taxable income. The biggest chunk of this will happen with the Foreign Earned Income Exclusion. That essentially says that the first $120k you earn in a year is tax free. You can qualify for it by staying out of America for 330 days per year. There is no requirement to have residency anywhere else.. You just have to be outside of the US.

That $120k rises every year. When you make more than that and do start to owe taxes, you will start to owe from the lowest tax bracket as well.

If you make $120k and do this, you just got a $30k raise in the form of taxes you no longer owe.. You can pretty much travel the world for free using this money.

Now, I said that most non-US countries have a residency-based taxation system. That generally only starts to kick in after living in that country for 181 days. If you stay there for less time, you don't owe them any money.

There are also countries who don't have income tax or do but actively tell you not to pay it.

Living in a combination of these places, and bouncing around every few months you avoid any real responsibility to anyone.

If you do earn more than $120k per year, you can reduce your taxable income even further by doing things like maxing out your 401k contribution.. That gets you to $142500 or so tax free. And again, you'd start paying taxes at the lowest rate above that.

Any other thing you mention in your US filing that can reduce your taxable income also contributes.. Getting married, depreciation value on a home (US or not), investment losses, etc..

Working remotely from the US also gets you a higher salary than if you had just taken a job in the UK or Germany or Japan or something.. So you can have the higher salary and the higher quality of live at the same time. You give up some employment protections and European style summer vacations but I'm personally ok with it.

Also, if you are working for a US company remotely, you can add these expected deductions to you W4 and never get charged for them in the first place.. You'd have a MUCH higher weekly salary and wouldn't have to wait for your tax return every year to take advantage of these benefits.

So spend summers in Italy, autumn in Japan, winter in New Zealand, and spring in Mexico. You earn an American salary, take advantage of lower cost of living, travel the world, and its all basically free.. Good luck trying to get me to move back to the US.

There's more but these are the major points.