Asklemmy

You can say no: to volunteer work, to events you don't want to go to, to doing favors to people. The power of no is amazing

Except for special cases, you don't actually have to do a task fully. You can pick at it as you go.

For example, i almost never do all the dishes at once. I just do 1-2 when i pass by the kitchen and i have a minute or two to spare. Without even realizing it or barely feel the energy or the time used, the task is either done or it is much smaller and more manageable.

This can apply to most adulting tasks by my experience.

A recent one I found: If you get a pain in your back that returns whenever you walk.. Take a trip to the wildest wilderness you can reach without needing to walk there, then start walking on uneven terrain. It is a huge difference on the muscles the body need. And just a forest path with a few roots isnt enough. Get off the path. Take the harder route. And be careful to not hurt yourself, of course.

Mise en place really helps my adhd brain with cooking. Prepping while managing the stovetop stresses me out unless it’s during a long simmer.

Get a vpn and torrent to your hearts content. The subscription services are too fractured. I’ve got Jellyfin, audiobookshelf, and mealie self hosted

If you want a rower go with the concept2. It’s the gold standard for indoor rower and they hold their value. I prefer going moderate effort long distance because then that time can be doubled up as audiobook/tv time

Edit: Besides exercise, which would ideally be a mix of cardio and strength work, make stretching a part of your routine. At least a few times a week. I mainly target the hamstrings and hip flexors

If you can't find the motivation to start doing a lengthy task (like cleaning the house, gardening, or working on a project), force yourself to do it only for 30 minutes. It's not an unreasonably long time. By the end, you'll either have gained enough momentum to keep going and finish it, or if not, you've still made 30 minutes of progress.

Use the vibrator around the thighs and top of the pelvis. Tease it

Manage your email. Unsubscribe from everything that hits your inbox you don't want. Mark emails as read even if you don't read them. Automate tagging. Write rules to move things automatically out of your inbox to a different folder. Put time sensitive emails on your calendar. And above all else, use the archive and trash. Keep your inbox clean!

If you want something, ask for it. A raise? A date ? Help? Advice? Wanna do something else in your company? Need a sport buddy?

90% of times the reason one doesn't get what they want is because they don't ask.

I asked and got all the above... Well the date not on first try 😅

Don't be fat

The career you chose out of high school doesn't have to be the one you do until you retire and you can also very easily go back to school if you are ever unsatisfied with your path.

Sometimes it just takes a bit of time and experience for you to find your passion and with it your skills to really blossom.

I, for instance started with veterinary nursing, but ended up in mech/elec. engineering and will be taking classes on the side for it.

For every service you sign up to .... phone company, subscription, gas company, water service, electricity, whatever ....

... always ask if you can get a discount or a better price.

Don't be embarrassed to ask. No one cares. We just build a culture around the hope that no one will ever ask for a better price and negotiate. The rep your talking to doesn't care about you and doesn't care about the company .... they might be having a bad day and won't care about helping you .. or they might be having a good day and they know an inside method or option to save you something ... or they might be facing losing their job so they figure out a way to save you a ton of money.

I got a banking service a few weeks ago and they gave me a price for a subscription .... I knew it was a sham but it was a service I needed ... I asked for a discount from the Filipino rep who spoke bag English ... she went off for five minutes and came back with a 60% discount.

Sometimes these businesses set their prices high and just hope that no one will ask for a different price .... because most people never ask.

Never leave without an appointment. When doing routine things like the dentist or yearly car inspection make the next appointment on your way out. If booking your next dentist visit 6 months out you get your choice of any time you like. Just stick it in your calendar and move on.

It not too late to learn a new skill or pick up a new hobby. If you hear of something that sounds fun, dive in!

Toilet roll under if you have a cat or pet who likes to rip off bits of them.

Toilet roll over for everything else.

Take magnesium to combat the slow and steady buildup of muscle tension that’s ruining your mental health.

Listen, don't interrupt a conversation with stuff about you. Take the time to listen to them and ask questions, it goes a long way.

Be rich. Makes everything so much easier.

If you have to deal frequently with toilets with flush sensors at your office (or really any public restroom), you've probably been grossed out by them flushing (and spraying water at you) before you're ready.

As an adult, I learned that handle-adjacent sensors can be dealt with by hanging TP over them, and won't flush until you remove it as you're leaving the stall. Wall sensors (like one infamous office toilet I deal with) can be handled with a post it note placed over the sensor; I keep some at the office just for this purpose. In an emergency, sometimes spit-dabbing a piece of TP can stick it to the wall over the sensor, but this isn't as reliable.

Just get into these habits when you use sensor toilets, and you'll never have to worry about disgusting flush spray from prematurely flushing public toilets ever again.

Budget. Don’t need to be fancy. But build a view on the things that you’ll need to pay for over the year (Christmas, birthdays, holidays, car service, boiler service etc) and actually put money aside every month to pay for those things. Nothing beats the adult feeling of “yes, I’ll just pay for this thing here from this envelope and done”.

Try to think of something for which you are grateful every day. I have a reminder on all my devices for this daily and I think of three things.

Dunno if that will work in every country, but in Brazil, an easy way to get a discount for your home internet is calling and asking to cancel your line. They will offer a deal. I've heard, but have not tried myself, that if you refuse this first offer, they will later attempt a second, better offer.

Learn internet pirating skills. Nowadays it's mostly about knowing which sites can be trusted and having patience. Or just download telegram and look for channels and groups, I suspect it's a lower risk of being caught even in the USA without a VPN, though that may change soon.

Do some 10-15 second stretches often, every 2-4 hours or so. Can help with localized pains and in keeping them away. Physiotherapy and all that.