I tend say "I mean..." before saying things. No one has ever pointed it out. but I'm very aware of it and catch myself doing it all the time. Sometimes 2-3 times in a discussion.
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Dang, I do that too
Biting my nails and the skin around my nails. Currently trying to quit again. On day 6.
You're doing great. What helped me quit when I was a teenager was to always know where my nail clippers were, and have fast access to them. So whenever I had an urge due to an uneven nail edge, I'd just smooth it out with clippers or a nail file. Really made it simple to quit.
I used to do it, what helped me break it was keeping a rubber band on my wrist and every time id bite, id snap my self with the rubber band, took ~1.5 weeks for me to stop
Staying up late. It's not harmless.
I used to do that. Now, I loooove getting in my bed and cutting out the light and itβs βnight nightβ!
Same. I will potter around until 5 or 6 am and then hate myself as I have a meeting in the morning that I will either need to drag myself out of bed for or sleep until lunchtime and lose half the productive day.
Reading.
Hear me out! I have always been an avid reader, get very sucked into plots. I got diagnosed with ADHD in June. Since I've been medicated I've read $15,000 worth of library books. A little of that amount was before June, but most has been since then.
I will walk around the house making food while reading. If I am doing something that requires my hands then it's a podcast or audiobook. This all being said a lot has been manga or graphic novels but there have been days when I read 10+ books.
Probably doesn't sound like the worst problem but it's something that has started to impact my life in ways I did not expect.
Thanks for reading!
I haven't done the math on "value" read, but I do 15-20 hours of audiobook (because 2x speed) on work days. It definitely can make finding new reads a challenge.
some libraries include that fun little stat on your slips.
That is exactly how I know ! Glad my library system isn't the only one that does that.
you've 'spent' as much on books in five months as i have in, like, twenty years. but i don't always actually check books out. i often just go there (it's only a block away), grab a book, find a sofa to sit on, and read it.. cover-to-cover, then put it back where i found it.
That's kind of cool. I'd need to combine a lot of different sources to get a number, though. I use all of Libby and Hoopla from my library, a scribd subscription (sorry, everand, I guess now), Audible, and Apple Books to handle my audiobook needs (and more for ebooks, though I have less time for that).
I've been sucked into a depression fueled reading hole where I just read and lay in bed for several days. What's weird though is after a couple of days I start to narrate my dreams and if long enough it begins to make its way into my waking life?
Ever experienced anything like this?
You could try set a countdown on your phone to snap you out of it after an hour or so.
Late night snacking
Waking up feeling slightly sick has been the norm for me for the past 5+ years
Learning a new hobby right after getting partway through another one
Biting my nails. Been doing it for as long as I can remember. I think I stopped once but went back to it as soon as I realized I stopped.
There is invisible nail polish that works well.
It makes nails taste horrible, and you will be reminded even if you bite your nails absent-mindedly.
Should give it a try if you really want to stop.
I have the same problem, except I'll sometimes end up chewing them so much that one finger will bleed in-between the finger and nail on the side. In fact, I'm pretty sure I have dried blood under one of my fingernails.
I used be a an absolute fiend for biting my nails. What fixed it was buying a little Swiss army knife nail set. It's got a wee little nail clippers and file. It fulfilled the need for nervous movement.
Oh I can relate with this. I've recently managed to stop (hopefully for good) for the silliest of reasons. I want nice long nails.
I know it sounds silly, but I've switched from biting my nails to running my finger tip along one of my nails instead. I admire how nice they feel and it somehow takes the biting impulse away.
One thing I do need to do is an almost daily filing to keep them completely smooth. I know that I'll resume biting if I find an irregularity or a jagged edge.
I can't stop buying Chia pets. They can't stop making new designs. Send help.
Biting/Knawing/Anxiety picking at my lips and fingers, it's not fun
Turns out Lemmy is pretty wholesome according to this thread :P
To be fair, they specifically asked for harmless habits!
Mine is I can't resist being contrary/devil's advocate...
Forgetting time, space and everything else while I write code.
Not that I've almost set the kitchen on fire before by forgetting the pizza in the oven while writing "this one little function".
Eating sweets.
Doesnt kill me (yet).
I tend to start sentences with "So," in emails and that just doesn't seem professional.
I love caffeine, but it messes me up bad. Absolutely debilitating headaches. I'll go six months or something without, and then relapse until I get woken up by a jackhammer in my skull and give it up again. Sigh. I don't understand the studies that actually suggest it's good for you.
I have occasionally tried giving up caffeine, and once the initial withdrawal headache passed, all that happened for me was more migraines (even after several months without it) and about 3 lb of weight increase. Daily caffeine does help me to prevent headaches.
If it was harmless, why would I care to break it?
If you strive to break a habit, it likely is because it has done harm, no?
Caffeine. For the love of god, why isn't this drug ~~legalized~~ legislated like Alcohol and Nicotine is?!
I get a headache if it is late enough in the morning and I haven't had caffeine yet. I get a headache if I have too much caffeine.
laughing a stupid little laugh after I'm done talking. probably comes off as nervous and awkward. I hate it.
Whenever I'm typing and there's a character limit, if I'm closer to the limit than I am to having zero characters, I try to fill the limit with precision even if I don't need to.
For some reason I can't seem to stop shaking a bottle of water first before taking a sip out of it