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My dad contacted me out of nowhere (startrek.website)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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I'm a bit lost here, to be fair. I went full no contact with my family back when I was 16. Took a hike, even across countries. So, apparently what happened, was my ex brother in law not keeping his mouth shut and sharing my number with my family. I still can't make heads or tails of it. But now my dad wants to be real chummy and friendy with me? Fuck that, honestly. I'm not super mad at him, more at the rest of my family, but it seriously hurts right now. What am I supposed to do? I'm at a loss here. Haven't really talked to the person for over 21 years.

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[–] CTDummy@lemm.ee 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

There’s (edit:was) enough info in the thread to read between the lines enough to know it wasn’t anything on par with “grounding”. Implying most 16 years old call grounding abuse sure is helpful in a thread like this though. As if someone maintains 20 years NC because of grounding.

Sounds like you’re doing them a favour by blocking them if you think saying the equivalent of “just get over it” is reasonable.

[–] x00z@lemmy.world 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I merely add another such thing that can be interpreted out of nowhere just as they are doing.

No need to read between the lines if you're making assumptions to justify a perspective.

[–] CTDummy@lemm.ee 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I’m not reading between lines. You’re the one who trivialised the issue by asserting 16 years olds call grounding abuse and did so in the context of this post. As I said before they removed it (due to privacy I suspect) there was enough to know it was nowhere trivial enough to be compared to grounding. Frankly in the OP alone there’s still enough information to draw that conclusion.

If you and @CaptObvious@literature.cafe can’t read through the thread and/or lack experience with childhood abuse probably best not weigh in on such matters and keep your poorly informed opinions to yourselves.