Yeah absolutely this. I've seen too often in trans spaces when these sorts of accidents aren't given any leeway or grace. We're all human though, and it bothers me when folks are put down when there was zero malicious intent.

My mum deadnamed me more recently, despite me being out for almost eight years now. But she called me my older brother's name first, then deadname, then Norah. She was mortified, and apologised profusely. How could I hold any ill will against her for that?

[–] PsychedSy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Lmfao. I'd never thought of that as an extra issue for trans people. My mom can go through her siblings, then my sister and I before getting my brother's name right.

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 weeks ago

To be fair, my brother was at least present!

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

What is it with mothers accidentally using the wrong names? It's not like most mothers nowadays have 5 children who all look nearly the same.