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[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 129 points 4 weeks ago (5 children)

Even with a trans person does something shitty, such as Blair White, Caitlyn Jenner or Ezra Miller, it's not a free pass to misgender them. The only effect of that is the trans people in your life know you aren't the ally you claim to be. You aren't misgendering your friends because you are polite. It's absolutely not okay, keep criticizing crappy trans folk, but when you intentionally misgender then you attack all of us.

[–] YtA4QCam2A9j7EfTgHrH@infosec.pub 18 points 4 weeks ago

There is a literal nazi who chose the name Augustus Invictus and I will call him that as I wish for him the absolute worst. He is on trial so hopefully he gets the worst.

[–] areyouevenreal@lemm.ee 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I know some.of those names but have no idea what these people have done. Could you explain?

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Sure. I chose those three because they are probably the biggest names that trans people might feel comfortable misgendering.

Ezra Miller is an actor who played the superhero The Flash in the last few movies, they are also non-binary and use they/them prounouns. There is a lot of details on wikipedia but the TL:DR Ezra started a relationship with an underage fan (Ezra was 23, she was 12) and this led to kidnapping claims by her parents and a restraining order. They are a real piece of shit IMO.

BLaire White is a right wing youtuber who regularly posts things like this. She also has said repeatedly that "trans women aren't real women, just trans women", suffice to say she is generally disliked by the broader trans community.

Caitlyn Jenner does and says similar things, but with a much bigger microphone. She has been a vocal supporter of Trump and generally the openly transphobic MAGA movement. She ran for governor of California and during her failed campaign, said she would ban trans kids from competing in sports. Currently, she is a Fox News correspondent and regularly appears just saying the most awful things. Much like Blaire, Caitlyin is not well liked by the trans community.

[–] OrnateLuna@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Huh so that's how I learn that there was a flash movie

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

Strictly speaking about the content of the movie and not my opinion of the lead actor.

The Flash movie is.... odd. A big time travel alter dimensional mess. Fun enough if you sorta turn your brain off, wonderful visual effects just don't think too hard on any particular plot point.

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[–] 1stTime4MeInMCU@mander.xyz 93 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Also applies to misogyny in general. You can call out terfs (or just regular anti trans conservative women) for being bigoted shit faces without resorting to gendered attacks.

[–] unlawfulbooger@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] bizarroland@fedia.io 17 points 4 weeks ago

Any person regardless of their sexuality or gender can be an asshole.

As long as you don't target them for their identity, you can call them out for their assholeshness.

[–] JPAKx4@lemmy.blahaj.zone 84 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

I only deadname twitter, am I chill?

[–] 1stTime4MeInMCU@mander.xyz 97 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Corporations aren’t people, they don’t have deadnames or pronouns. Fire away

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 3 weeks ago

Citizens United vs Federal Election Commission has entered the chat

(/s if it wasn't obvious)

[–] pmc@lemmy.blahaj.zone 37 points 4 weeks ago

I think deadnaming the corporate entity Twitter is fine as long as a certain CEO continues to deadname his living breathing daughter.

[–] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works 35 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

Ooh, this is a great template, can be applied to all variety of bigotry, which people feel is ok as long as it's aimed at other bigots, ignoring the fact that all they're doing is putting more bigotry out in to the world, and telling marginalised people around them that they aren't safe.

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 12 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

can be applied to any shitty behaviour tbh. Too many people think that once someone is shitty to them, they have free reign to also be shitty as a payback. They think they gave the asshole a piece of their own medicine, but actually they started rolling in the mud with them

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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah, it's going pretty damn hard. There's so many different things it fits on, like all the different kinds of bodyshaming (e.g. fat shaming, calling something "small dick energy", talking about Trump's small hands).

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[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 34 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I often ask people who deadname (bad) trans people if they also deadname Stalin. Oh, the mental gymnastics I often see...

[–] saturno@sh.itjust.works 14 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

what do you mean by deadname stalin?

[–] yenguardian@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 3 weeks ago

Stalin was not his birth name

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 10 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

His birth name was Iosif Dzhugivashili if I recall it correctly.

[–] SassyRamen@lemmy.world 9 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah no way in hell I'm remembering that, none the less saying it.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 3 weeks ago

i do not give a chili, find your own

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 23 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

People will accuse you of condoning a trans person's shitty actions if you gender them correctly, then turn around and use the proper pronouns for literal dictators

[–] moosetwin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

yeah it's depressing seeing people decide that it's okay to do asshole things if it is towards asshole people, I understand that you want to be a jerk back but it makes me feel like we lost the progress we just made towards not doing the asshole thing

[–] OrnateLuna@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago

At least the issue for me isn't the being an asshole to an asshole it's the throwing other people under the bus while being an asshole to the asshole.

[–] Suavevillain@lemmy.world 19 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I've seen right-wingers try to weaponize misgendering as some walk on eggshells type of thing. But it really isn't. Just apologize if you do misgender someone and make sure to use their correct pronouns.

[–] jabjoe@feddit.uk 15 points 3 weeks ago

Exactly how I felt about those pictures of Andrew Tate in swim trunks with seamingly no budgie to smuggle. Him being shitty to trans, doesn't make it OK to mock him for maybe being trans. Makes us no better.

[–] Gladaed@feddit.org 10 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Yes, but actually no. Using deadnames of companies is much more acceptable than for people.

[–] Glytch@lemmy.world 9 points 3 weeks ago

Despite what the Supreme Court will tell you, corporations aren't actually people, so you don't have to worry about dead naming them.

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago

Deadnaming is not necessarily misgendering. Sometime people have deadnames for reasons other than gender.

[–] ChonkyOwlbear@lemmy.world 8 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

The one exception should be teachers who refuse to stop misgendering a student, and then only done by the other students.

Even then, there’s probably a better way to solve the problem, instead of a petty “no U”.

[–] Klear@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 weeks ago

Meanwhile Alfred will be going around misgendering people because he does not give a crap about Batman's rule.

[–] beefbot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago

Ugh but it’s so EASY to upset anti-trans people who are so invested in hurting others by using this tactic, and they deserrrrrve it so much

[–] HawlSera@lemm.ee 4 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

Looks at Caitlyn Jenner We recognize your status as woman, but you are now on this council. Do not take a seat.

I will however misgender cispeople who are openly bigoted, as a "Uno Reverse Card" on their "Transvestigation" nonsense...

Wait I just realized that term is a pun on "Transvestite" and Transvestism has literally nothing to be with being trans... If I were to wear a woman's clothing I'm not wearing the opposite gender's clothing for kicks, because I AM a woman, god damn it htese mother fuckers.

Also it's okay to deadname a corporation, or Jesse Mcree, or Dr. Robotnik. Probably shouldn't deadname Mr. Satan, the name Hercule is on fucking life support and that's probably for the best.... But don't be that dick who says they're boycotting DBZ because Vegeta deadnames Goku by calling him "Kakarot"

I have sadly seen that argument before...

Wait what the fuck am I talking about anymore?

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world 24 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

Wait what the fuck am I talking about anymore?

I... don't know. But please don't misgender cis people. It just makes it harder to convince them that misgendering is wrong if you also do it. The trans community is more vulnerable to misgendering than the bigots, so if we start doing it to people we don't like, then it becomes some sort of schoolyard insult revenge term where we as trans folk lose.

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