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It feels like no matter where I turn some septuagenarian, or older, is making life miserable for myself and others. Usually these are older white Christian conservatives, obsessed with a delusional sense of reality that no longer has a basis in fact, or perhaps never did.

There is a disproportionate amount of wealth concentrated in the older generation and those who will inherit it will probably be even worse with that money than the last generation. Certainly we see evidence of that already, anyone in their 30's who has parents who help them out VS those who don't have that have radically different outcomes. For some reason those lucky enough to come from good families ascribe laziness and bad attitude to those who don't have the family support, as if they are somehow enjoying "self made success" while mummy does their laundry for them.

No generation previous needed this kind of assistance well into adulthood, but this infantilisation of working adults has happened because of the hoarding of wealth, refusing to pass on the torch in workplaces and just blocking change for the sake of stoking petty politics. Most of us will never own our own home but all the politicians want to talk about is whether it's OK to dehumanise trans people or not.

I'm 36 this year. For most of my teens I thought there'd be some kind of tipping point where the conservative boomers would fuck off or at least let the next generation step in, but that hasn't happened. Back in the 1990's you could be a girl and wear jeans and be empowered, now this is considered some kind of woke statement. As if we recently invented this idea of women and men being equal.

The faces of my two dogs, my cat and my husband are all that keep me going. Knowing they need me gives me just enough to get out of bed in the morning and start moving... but I'm struggling to do even that without having a breakdown. My husband and I have medical expenses we can't afford and are borrowing money to survive right now. I run my own business and just feel this immense pressure on my shoulders, that again is compounded by how unfair the world is right now.

Anyone got any advice for coping with this late stage capitalist hellscape?

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[–] squiblet@kbin.social 8 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I saw this 70 year old guy waiting at the hospital today, with his 70 year old wife in a wheelchair, produce wearing by his brand new TRUMP hat (along with a chain wallet, like he was 20 and it was 1996). My thought was: why the fuck does this loser have to fuck up society before he dies of old age?

[–] SadSadSatellite@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

He needs something to focus on other than dying and his sick wife. Don't worry about it, just negate his vote, he'll die first.

[–] Huschke@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

That might be good advise for America, but where in from it's mainly young uneducated people that vote for parties that fuck up our system because they are blinded by racism. And guess which group of people is growing and not dying off? 😐

[–] Bo7a@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Why is it always ok to shit on chain wallets, long hair on a man, or any other non-political style choice?

I sponsor and attend protests - have done so since the '90s. I help out at shelters and food banks and soup kitchens. I champion the causes of all people who are oppressed or otherwise neglected by society.

But my fucking chain wallet and ponytail make me less of a person?

Why?

[–] squiblet@kbin.social 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The chain wallet looked goofy on this 70 year old guy, that’s all.

[–] Bo7a@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Sorry if I came off as attacking you.

I have been seeing a lot of posts that call out simple things like how I dress as indicative of being some MAGAt or bigot and I was just venting that out here. Like jeans and a plaid shirt with sunglasses are now the uniform of the standard racist asshole - But I don't think it is fair to lump everyone in those clothes together. And if someone posted the same thing about a distinctly 2000s fashion, or dyed hair, they would get corrected quickly, but since my style is 'old' more people feel open to judging the book by its cover.

I did not mean to offend, or call you out personally, and I will try to be better about how I express these things going forward.

For reference - I am in my mid-40s, but I need my chain wallet since I bounce around the forest/homestead on tractors or dirt bikes a lot while building or doing chores, and would certainly lose it without some tether. I don't have any excuse for my ponytail other than i have just always had it :p I'm sure baldness will end that soon too!

[–] JustZ@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

jeans and a plaid shirt with sunglasses are now the uniform of the standard racist asshole

Right? Like, you could just as easily be a cholo asshole. /j

[–] Bo7a@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago
[–] JustZ@lemmy.world -2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

You left out the Trump hat and the neglected wife.

[–] Bo7a@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Well I also hate Trump with the burning passion of a million dying suns - and I love my wife more than I love breathing.

[–] JustZ@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Well, see, so if you recognize Trump for what he is, and you found a woman, a divine giver of life, to tolerate you, I can give you a pass for your wallet chain, Oakley's, even a mullet, you must be a very decent person.