[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 11 points 2 months ago

Elder millennial here

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Tldr: my wife and I get into verbal fights quite often (once a month or so) I get over it in an hour and it takes her days. Both of us think that the other's timeline isn't normal. What's typical/normal?

I'm ADHD (my current therapist thinks it's AuDHD) so I'm prone to emotional deregulation and pretty crazy mood swings. I'm pretty sure my parents are somehow ND as well so I don't have the best basis. My wife is also ND, but it's audio processing not emotionally related

My wife and I get into fights and arguments sometimes over petty stuff. I feel I hear her out but it's difficult for her to listen to me straight through as I tend to take a while to get to my point. She interrupts me a lot with either snide comments or questions that if she just waited a sec I'd answer. This leads me to getting frustrated and raising my voice and yelling, which gets her pissed off and raises her voice and suddenly we're in a shouting match.

Eventually one of us gives up or realizes they're wrong and we end the fight and go to our separate (safe) areas.

After about an hour I feel I'm back to normal and can talk about other things. (We usually have something we need to do with our kids or work or the house that we need to communicate on).

My wife feels it takes her a day or two to come down from a fight so shes very short with me until that time, where I feel I can talk after an hour or so.... She feels that it's not normal to change in that short of time.

What do people think?

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 2 points 3 months ago

Yeah. But she wanted to carry a really small purse that wouldn't be able to hold the foldable :(

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 1 points 3 months ago

After an impromptu upscale bar/lounge crawl with the wifey the other day.....

A shoe that can easily go back and forth from high heel/wedge to comfortable flats w/o much, if any, tooling or carrying around extra parts. She also brought a clutch purse

Wifey was dead the next day from foot pain of walking between places.

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 1 points 5 months ago

I'm not saying that. Just asking for myself. Haha

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 1 points 5 months ago

It's not just you. I hate texting in general unless it's for work. Usually if I'm running around on errands or a nice walk, I end up getting a text response to someone from an hour ago, and it boils my nerves that I feel I need to respond.

I'd rather be on a phone call to get all information in/out at once. Especially with wireless headset/earbuds

Though my therapist thinks I'm AuDHD. So that gives credence to your asd worry

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submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org to c/adhd@lemmy.world

Having issues gathering vyvance, which is slightly working for me. A friend suggested that she has friends who can help get some from Brazil, where the DEA isn't down everyone's throat. Just curious about people's experiences

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

It is a religious practice for Jews ... I completely agree with your point of it being a "health fad" for non-jews though.

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 5 points 7 months ago

Ask any Dr who fan. The BBC did this as well back in the day......

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 5 points 7 months ago

More popular, more commercially successful, and more accessible to casual fans. Agreed.

But for magnum opus, I gotta agree with the wall for a few reasons

  1. They made a movie out of it
  2. The ode to the intense para social relationships that revolve around stardom and how a truly crazy creative can take advantage of it in scary ways was not only true back then, but predictive of how much worse it would get in current time.
  3. DSotM always seemed like a lot of good ideas in an unordered list. I felt like they could be scrambled and the album would be similar, except for the first and last songs.. Meanwhile the wall tells a story of pain, alienation, search for meaning, lashing out, and then a quest for self-forgiveness.
[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Regardless, I switched off brave because I was tired of getting ads in the browser. Been using ff for a while now

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 1 points 8 months ago

Hah! I thought that was my work VPN when I first saw it. Not sure how much I like that it's actually the site

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HELP!!!

I have three situations, all would be very helpful if I could manually update the mappings of individual files or albums. If this is the wrong sub/community, can you point me in the right directions?

  1. I have an album that i accidentally mapped to the wrong artist/album combination and now it won't let me change it because I also tagged it, even renaming doesn't help.
  2. I have an album where the 1st and 6th song switched during the mapping/renaming/tagging process and now, even if I rename the files and retag them manually using id3, both lidarr and plex think they're the wrong track
  3. I have an album that's not only a standalone album, but also a disc in a box set, I'd rather have it as part of the box set, but can't figure out how to unmap/remap the album to move it to under the box set, when I have the rest of the box set already set up properly

Any help would be appreciated, thanks!

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 2 points 9 months ago

Yeah .... I wasn't sure when I wrote it and didn't think it'd matter tbh

[-] aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org 4 points 9 months ago

Not only for iPhone, but for Mac as well. It's easy to install bsd on a machine when you have access to the best hw engineers and documenters on the planet.

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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by aredditimmigrant@endlesstalk.org to c/startrek@startrek.website

Whenever there's a storyline with quark, they talk about money/latinum.

I remember in one of the next gen episodes that there was discussion about money and Picard said something about how they've moved away from money.

So do Starfleet get paid now?

Update: thank you for the quick responses. From what I'm gathering the tldr is that the following is the answer

  • Ferengi love for money/not being a post scarcity society by design
  • Bajorans being so near their slavery times and not post scarcity yet
  • Quark creating an atmosphere of camaraderie/gambling/upgraded replicators/actual food

All this requires some form of currency.

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