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Right now, climate change. This planet was a paradise and we ruined it for ourselves. I don't think we have very long before ecosystems just start breaking down in massive ways.
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Job, lack of relationship/connection, climate, existing in a semi burnout state.
Ending up in a labor camp within the next 4 years
Have you considered moving to some civilized place?
Most of us are far too broke.
It takes a one way ticket and ask for political asylum. Or something. If you have proof of ancestry somewhere in Europe you can get citizenship.
Lol. Most of the world still officially considers the US a democracy, so nope, no asylum. They'll tell you to relocate within your country (aka, move to a blue state, blue city).
Good luck, and bye! you get deported back to the US
Yeah, weβll have to wait for open civil war to break out before theyβre liable to accept any meaningful quantity of Americans who arenβt in VERY special circumstances. And weβd also have to piss off enough countries such that theyβd refuse to extradite (or just go to France (but good luck if the French fascist party wins)).
Not the person you replied to, but:
My Options are:
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Remain in US
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Go back to China, an actual dictatorship. Hopefully Xi doesn't find all the anti-CCP stuff I said while in the US? China tends to label people who have moved oveeseas as "ζ±ε₯Έ" (Han Traitor). I could potentially end up in prison. Also job market has like 10 times more people competing than the US. Also ζ·ε£ (Hukou) issues, my Hukou was in some rural village, very shitty place. If I go to a city (where the actual jobs are), I'm essentially treated as a foreigner in my own country. (Also, China revoked my Chinese citizenship already. So I'd technically be an actual foreigner lmao)
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Become... stateless and get stuck in an airport?
Or secret option number 4:
4. Hope an advanced alien civilization abducts me? π /jk, but that's be fun tho
- French foreign legion
I worry about money.
Overpopulation and regression of social advances.
My cancer returning.
Im really mad and worried about the world my kids are inheriting.
My lovely anxiety keeps it ever changing.
Climate change, and the generations after me who will have nothing left.
Not finding anyone to replace my ex in my heart. Someone not finding her and giving her the life we dreamed about.
She can't be replaced
I know, I'm just unsure how to move on lifewise guiltwise lovewise
Have you grieved?
Yes, for about a year. I'm grieving still.
Do you have a lot of unresolved feelings? Did you get some sort of closure?
Feelings: I can't shake away the thought that I've hurt her deeply. I mourn for the children we wanted to have. The house and the garden I promised. The stolen fertile years of her life. I hurt someone whose only crime was not quite being able to share the same headspace as me. I felt lonely in the relationship due to the language and the alien culture, but since I've been alone and moved back to my home country I've realised that I tend to just generally live in my head, regardless of language or company.
I feel that my loneliness problem wasn't coming from her somewhat difficulty in hearing me, but in my difficulty sharing aspects of myself with others. I feel that I've ruined my life, and that's okay, completely self-inflicted... but I can't live with the idea that I've ruined hers too. The thought and the guilt buries me every night.
Closure: we've said goodbye a thousand times, and have talked about the above themes, but I can't shake away the memories I have with her.
Sounds like a many incomplete closures? So you keep talking with each other or where are you now?
Broke up in February. Said a final goodbye in August. Haven't talked since.
For what it's worth I think that's still quite recent and I think grieving is going to be a longer process. Like if you've moved on a year from now then that would be amazing, so I wouldn't focus so much on that right now.
How are you holding up?
I'm mostly okay during the day (I can distract myself with work or hobbies), but at night is when it all hits me. I'll be okay though, I've just started reading book after book after book in bed until sleep comes.
I also know plenty of people who've been through much much worse, and they all tell me that time really does tend to heal everything. So I've got to be patient I guess.
Another thought that helps is something she herself said, in that she did not wish to be pitied by me. Someone also told me that it's not my job to "rescue" her, so I can maybe try to free myself of the guilt by pursuing that line of thought, and trying to focus on my own happiness.
Btw, thanks for carrying on through this comment chain with me, it's really helped me process some things - it sounds like you yourself have experience in this topic
Climate, not being able to retire on time
The Internet or the power grid just shuts down one day when I wake up.
Like, yes I know there are the typical fear of nuclear war, or plague and stuff.
But those things, you typically just die.
But imagine you are alive, but have zero access to the internet. Zero entertainment.
I'll be so bored to death, while also not have the courage to end it (because of survival instincts would probably overrule my desire to die). Its just torture.
A modern day Carrington Event would probably fuck us up pretty bad, so in a way, I'm right there with you
And we're seriously unprepared, despite knowing it's a game of chance while we wait!
If the entire Internet/power grid just shut down permanently, it probably wouldn't take very long until you (and everyone around you) died. It's not just your entertainment anymore.
Electricity obviously keeps your electric appliances going, including HVAC. Even if it's gas, it probably needs electricity to work (e.g. fans on the furnace).
Electricity at a grid level keeps the natural gas flowing. Any backup options would quickly deplete.
It's also necessary for gasoline, since it all stops flowing if it can't be billed. Remember the gas shortage because of a ransomware attack? Those systems won't have power very long.
You won't have tap water, nor would there be clean/treated water at the source.
Now, what if you had electricity, but there was no longer any Internet? Well, that's a little better. It's possible that emergency operations could be implemented (using the military) to keep you barely alive, until things could be fixed. But let's just assume the Internet is completely gone. Then what happens?
Remember when I mentioned the ransomware attack? Those systems probably don't have an offline mode. If they can't bill for it, the gas stops flowing.
No credit cards, no bank transfers, no phones. The public Internet is now the medium for nearly all communication outside of an org.
You can't buy food at the grocery store, but it won't matter for long because they can't order anything more, and the trucks can't deliver it.
Most people would be dead in about a week, maybe 2.
Start buying books and physical video games and download stuff xd
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Being unceremoniously fired and homeless.
Death.
Not mine, but my parents are aging, and my chickens have a short life span compared to some animals. So I know damn good and well I'm losing someone or something I care a great deal about, and almost certainly in the next decade if not sooner.
Also have a damn chipped tooth and my damn dentist has been on vacation since before Christmas. Wouldn't be a worry, but the damn thing irritates my tongue.
Fascism & climate collapse.
Climate change and all of the bullshit it will bring before it kills enough humans to start fixing the issue.
I worry that we'll only get it fixed once the human population falls to some horrifically low number.
That's the only way climate change will ever be addressed in any way that matters
That is the fix
Not having enough money when I'm old. I don't have children or close family so I worry about what's going to happen to me when I'm older.
If you're in the US and is a Citizen, run for Congress.
I wouldn't be elected, politicians usually have families and resources.
I often get stuck in a frustrating loop of thought when I ponder the point of all of this.
Mum. Since dad passed away early on 2024 I've been doing my best to care for her, but there's only so much I can do.
There's no simple explanation, no simple solution. I do what I can, putting both love and logic into every decision, but I am still worried about the future she has.
money
i worry our species is irreversibly doomed. honestly, i feel certain we are yet i refuse to act as though i believe it. if i give in and give up and sit back and wait for the worst to come then i wonβt be able to say βi triedβ to whichever younger generation asks the rest of us why we did nothing and let the human race go extinct. climate change will likely bring about the end but any number of things could happen before then, and capitalism will have spearheaded all of them.
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