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[–] Trev625@lemm.ee 6 points 7 hours ago

Not great :(

[–] Azal@pawb.social 14 points 14 hours ago

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAhahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

Fuck.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 20 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (2 children)

Lemmings gonna lem, but I blame the millions of Dems who stayed home because Kamala didn't meet their moral purity standards and they refused to be "complicit in genocide". Cuz everyone knows it's better to walk over broken glass barefoot than wear uncomfortable shoes, right? If some of the 10 million who voted in 2020 but not 2024 had bothered to show up, we'd be looking at a very different story. Righteous dumbfucks.

[–] bl4kers@lemmy.ml 6 points 17 hours ago

Campaigning is getting people to vote for you which includes getting people out to vote. Those are the true "swing" voters. Her campaign failed in this regard

[–] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 1 points 17 hours ago

I think it was closer to 15 million

[–] Neps@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I am in an extremely red area of tx my next door neighbors fly like dont tred on me flags and confederate flags all the time and the whole neighborhood does stuff like that. Trying to move to a blue state with my partner (we are both nb) asap but it might be joever lmao.

[–] frayedpickles@lemmy.cafe 1 points 16 minutes ago

Sorry about your lack of butts. One assumes you are referring to "no butt" disorder.

[–] Maiq@lemy.lol 16 points 19 hours ago

Fucking pissed but unsupprised.

[–] HelluvaKick@lemmy.world 26 points 1 day ago

Not great. Have a trans spouse and a young daughter who goes to public school. Have been burning through savings lately to pay off medical debt and am scared of losing my job once the tariffs kick in. My state just made homelessness illegal so the thought of the house of cards coming down is real

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 9 points 21 hours ago

I live in California, but I'm worried about just how much resistance a state can do against the Feds.

[–] TipRing@lemmy.world 17 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I am moving to a blue state as soon as possible. Work already lined up, working on housing and arrangements for my animals. It's not safe here.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 6 points 18 hours ago

Safe travels friend

[–] card797@champserver.net 20 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm just giving up worrying and taking a break. I can't control these people. I'm gonna wait and see what happens and laugh at them when it blows up in our faces. Crying and laughing at the same time.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

The tarifs are probably the first shitstorm. Buying any electronics and China-ware I preemptively think I'll need.

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 5 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Car parts are going to go way up, that also means the cost of new and used cars is also going to go up, especially with interest rates stabilizing. I'm seeing used cars in the 200k-300k miles range for sale right now. Take care of your car and watch for rust, because that is going to have to last you a long time.

[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago

And also insurance rates are going to go up as well due to cost of repairs pushing many to drive illegally without insurance

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I'll join you in craughing

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 4 points 20 hours ago

I guess they do already have the market cornered on lying.

[–] scoobford@lemmy.zip 6 points 19 hours ago

I was already planning on moving to Chicago next year, so...eh? I worry about our country for a lot of reasons, but none of them only apply to red state residents.

That being said, if I wasn't already moving I'd be getting the hell out of dodge. I don't have a uterus, but I know people who do, and I won't be party to the state suppression of their healthcare on religious grounds.

[–] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 36 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Depressed.

I haven't gone on walks for a bit because I just cannot stand seeing those fucking signs. My mom and grandma are in a tizzy, and my mom is just as forlorn. She doesn't even want to vote anymore.

And I'm so, so, so angry. I'm not saying Harris would be the second coming, but that anyone would pick a fascist over anyone is infuriating. The area I live in is not bougie, these signs were sometimes outside houses that have seen better days. And they doomed us all for at least the next four years. I'm so distrustful of my neighbors ~~not that we were close to begin with~~. I want to ask them why, I want to scream at them, I want to question them.

I feel helpless. All my life I believed that there was some thread of decency that connected us, a thread of common sense. But there's none. And that's really upsetting.

[–] letsgo@lemm.ee 3 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Well you should ask them. Respectfully, without interrogation, and as part of a wider conversation that overall seeks to strengthen your relationships with your neighbours. You might find there is some sense there.

I'm from the UK, not USA. But I can see why some might vote for Trump. I wouldn't, personally, because of stuff he's said, but if you accept the premise "sure he speaks crazy but what he means is [non-crazy stuff]" then maybe there is some rationale behind their choice, and you might find you're not as different as you think.

[–] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 3 points 7 hours ago

I'mma be real with you: I have zero interest in hearing someone's reasons for voting for a fascist.

[–] astla@midwest.social 27 points 1 day ago

Honestly I am so scared for my children. If Trump goes through with dismantling the Education department I do not trust my state at all not to destroy our public school system.

[–] Huckledebuck@sh.itjust.works 6 points 22 hours ago

Trying not to think too hard about it. I'm waiting for the idiots at work to try and bring anything up, but they've been uncharacteristically quiet. At least around me. I'm pretty sure I'm the token liberal to these nitwits.

[–] MagicPterodactyl@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Mostly just worried for my trans friends and family.

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago

I've been telling my LGBTQ friends and acquaintances to use signal messenger and get a VPN like mullvad, you can buy vouchers on Amazon.

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 65 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (9 children)

Pretty shit. Came out of the closet as trans to my parents just before the election after hiding dysphoria for nearly 20yrs (I'm 30). Unfortunately, the dysphoria has been intense enough that I'm so dissociated that I can barely function, so as you might imagine, I'm currently living with parents.

My dad's reaction was basically, "whoever the best you is, be that you".

My mom's reaction was "but you're my son... I always wanted to have a brother and you're kinda like that".

Meanwhile my grandparents voted for Trump after saying they wouldn't, and are now crying about it. Literally. My grandmother was in tears.

So my mom is also dealing with that, and possibly osteoporosis, which meant she said, "it's gonna take time to process this".

Then last night she told me that I wasn't allowed to start hrt until I moved out.

She refuses to let me tell her why I can barely function. She refuses to let me describe what I'm going through. She says she "can't handle it", that "it's not a top priority right now", that she's "trying to understand" why I've made this "choice" while also telling me things like "but I like you the way you are" and rejecting any information I send to her because she'd rather consult her friends that she "trusts more".

She starts to have a panic attack whenever I try to talk to her about it and God forbid I tell her that she made a mistake because then I obviously hate her guts and want her to die. She's literally accused me of that.

It hurts like hell but I don't know how to get out of this situation. I don't know how long it'll take hrt and therapy to get me on my feet all while not having a job. All this while in Texas. I'm fucking scared.

Edit: I also kinda wonder if I was born intersex and that's why my mom is freaking out. I'd think my dad would know and would say something, but idk. I've heard of times where one parent had an intersex kid """fixed""" without the other parent knowing. It honestly might explain some shit if I was born intersex.

[–] eccentric@lemm.ee 1 points 4 hours ago

She refuses to let me tell her why I can barely function. She refuses to let me describe what I'm going through. She says she "can't handle it", that "it's not a top priority right now", that she's "trying to understand" why I've made this "choice" while also telling me things like "but I like you the way you are" and rejecting any information I send to her because she'd rather consult her friends that she "trusts more".

She starts to have a panic attack whenever I try to talk to her about it and God forbid I tell her that she made a mistake because then I obviously hate her guts and want her to die. She's literally accused me of that.

Those paragraphs reminded me of the !raisedbynarcissists@lemmy.ml community.

[–] Moobythegoldensock@lemm.ee 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Congrats on coming out!

My wife’s mom still insists on deadnaming her over a decade after her transition, and refuses to recognize her gender. Sucks because she could be in our lives but instead just gets a phone call at Christmas, and I’ve never even talked to her. Some parents just make that choice, sucks that your mom is one of them.

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 1 points 9 hours ago

I'm hoping she'll eventually come around. In the meantime though, I'm getting to try and figure out how to get on my feet long enough to move out.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

I will say it took me awhile to wrap my head around my kid being a son not a daughter. My concept of womanhood is quite broad, I really and truly did not see it coming, just thought she was dykey , for lack of a better word, still doesn't seem distressed at all either but that may be because all the kids at school just accept kids are whatever gender they say, it's no big deal to them, and siblings all immediately supportive. I didn't lay my trouble adapting on them, it's not his problem, it's mine - just saying you have known a long time but she has not, she will adjust.

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

It's ok here because I'm in a left leaning city, trans kid (my youngest) will be adult soon so can begin medical care whenever they can afford it; any daughters who are at all into men have IUDs, and in general everything has been ok, except for school but that kid is a little bit insulated because it's an art school and they DGAF about the state saying they can't use nicknames or preferred gender. So that is ok but the actual teaching in the academic classes has faltered, getting bad like when I went to school here, and it's so disappointing after it had gotten so good for awhile.

Thanksgiving may be fractious because we have trans, communists, right wing, right-leaning, about half progressive leftist, one sort of prickly vegan (not prickly about us being omnivore, just more delicate sensibilities), it's always very mixed and rowdy like that, tensions seem higher but OTOH my ex has become more reasonable.

Bracing for economic downturn, hopefully it lets some people get into houses, who cannot now. And hopefully can stay employed, pretty old so have made it through several recessions already.

[–] finitebanjo@lemmy.world 123 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (21 children)

I don't argue with people, I slowly explain to them what Republicans lawmakers are doing. Try as hard as possible not to be conescending.

I explain how Biden and Obama are better at convicting and deporting, why Trump's cruelty is so innefficient.

I explain that Trump said he had nothing to do with project 2025 and now Matt Walsh and Fox News are explaining their plans which coincidentally align with project 2025.

I explain the Trump Tax Plan, which is identical to last time, how it raised everybody's taxes below a certain amount.

Sometimes they tell me "but that Harris was an idjet" and I explain how she wanted to bring back child tax credits and vowed to never raise taxes on anyone below 400k annual earnings. They ask "well she didnt say that during the CNN Interview or debates!" and I direct them to her website where every single policy is laid out clearly.

Many of them do not understand the ramifications of the situation they have caused. They are completely unaware of the consequences of their actions, expect life to go on as if their side just won at sports without any impact on the real world. It is easy to ignore and be ignored if thats what you want to do in a red state.

When people try to threaten me I can be very intimidating as a result of my natural physique. Fear is something I will die before showing any of these people. They respect strength, the simple fools, it can get you far in their world.

That's how I do.

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