βDonβt overthink itβ & βworrying wonβt solve the problem when you have to wait anywayβ.
I always give that advice. However, I, personally, always overthink and keep worrying.
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I would agree, but I'm still frantically thinking whether I actually agree and whether I should be expressing that publicly!
βDone is better than perfect.β
I'm working on this, though i usually say - I'd rather get bitched at for doing it wrong than for not doing it. At my job it's to emphasize the stupidity of the task and the lack of training on a shitty system.
Always add tests to your code!
True that haha
In practice, I live by "never write any code that's important enough for anyone to insist on testing it" π
Be kind to yourself
Don't eat a entire box of thin mints.
That's easy to obey... but samaos seem to spontaneously evaporate near me.
I had a customer that mentioned something about her daughter and the cookies, I interrupted her to ask for 10 boxes of Samoas.
They did not last as long as one would hope.
Do not eat that entire 3KG bag of wine gums to yourself
Good luck on the throne
No issues for me
I'm sorry, what? Elaborate for curiosity!
Stop checking the news.
Grab a book before sleeping rather than your phone.
"Your life is worth it, don't give up!"
Right as I think about my own suicide plans.
I feel like a hypocrite.
Asking for help us a sign if strength, not weakness.
I know that because i find it extremely hard to ask for help.
Oof that his home.
All I can say is that things can turn it better, it has for me personally.
It's great of you that you inspire others, though, not hypocritical, it's what we all need sometimes. Doesn't matter if you don't see it personally, you are helping another human being get along.
I feel you so fucking much.
Sometimes it helps to take your own advice, like having a conversation with yourself as if you were another person.
Other times, there's a cloud around our heads that stops that from working.
I hope you find someone to talk to who treats you with the same compassion that you treat others.
Depending on where you live, someone to talk to is probably a phone call away. Give it a try if that's an option.
"don't worry about it being perfect" and "stop being so self critical"
It's not a problem if it takes you 12 tries and you still haven't gotten it, do it a 13th. If I don't do something perfect on the 1st or 2nd try I'll most likely never do it again.
I get the opposite problem. If I get things nearly perfect on the first try, I'll just think to myself that I'll never top that and give up. There's something satisfying about seeing improvement. In the same vein, seeing results get worse is highly discouraging.
If you just do the thing, people will stop asking you when are you going to do the thing.
Mom called. She wants to know when to expect grandkids.
She already has 5 leave me be.
Sleep more.
You really need to get your backups in order.
Ohh that was a good one. best one I think.
Same as having a good backup strategy but didn't try to restore once.
Try to hit the gym at least 3 times a ~~day~~ week. Daily if you can, even if it just means a light "spa" day.
Three times a day, or, if you can muster it, once a day!
Lol, oops. 3 times a week
Rest days are important! Depending on what you're doing of course but ya need to rest
I overheard someone saying that rest days can be even more important than gym days because that's when the body recovers.
My body does a lot of recovering!
Thats when the gains are growing! :'D
Rest days have really helped a ton mentally actually. I used to never be consistent with any sort of workouts I tried. Because I tried to do them daily and then would just soon get tired of doing it and stop altogether. But now my goal is 1-2 days between workouts. I've been able to be fairly consistent since March of this year...excluding unusual things like holidays and illness. I've never been this consistent for this long and I think the rest days are really what helped make the distance. Instead of dreading it every single day, I can mentally prepare in advance for when I have to go versus when I can just chillax and veg on the couch.
That's really awesome, and I know that rest days are very important.
But uh...I was just making a joke about not going to the gym! Ahaha
Pretty much the classic way of things:
"i gotta work out -> I'll do it daily! -> oh no i missed one day -> might as well give up"
When in reality going once a week is better than not going at all. Going three times a week is difficult enough, especially when you have other responsibilities or hobbies.
I will give men advice on how to be more attractive to women but i dont use that advice because i only like men lol. Not that im like the women whisperer i just find straight men to be... misguided i guess is the best word. They project their own wants onto women and dont consider hey maybe she doesnt want the same things you do in a partner.
"If you can't truly be a good, supportive, platonic friend to her with no secret ulterior motive, maybe you don't deserve her. Maybe you need to take a look at not only how you treat women, but how you think about them."
Most straight men have a lot of patriarchal shit they need to work out within themselves that contribute to them being bad partners.
Ya dont be a sex crazed creep is like tip #1 lol
It's amazing how many men still miss this too!
Don't Write Lemmy Posts In Title Case
Actually, I like capitalizing random nouns, so sometimes I might do that accidentally.
as a swiss german (we capitalize nouns for those who don't know), I sometimes automatically capitalize nouns when writing in english, especially when I just wrote something in german. Its a habit and at least for me, its really hard to prevent me doing it.
Same is for when I wrote mucn in english before, then writing something in german. Then everything is in lowercase.
All advice I give is advice I should take, but don't
Get your shut together and stop fucking up
Have a good schedule