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There is a straightforward, but not always simple for everyone, solution.
Communication.
If you're always going to be late then either communicate a realistic time frame (eg, could be there between 1 and 3pm depending on how difficult the kids/traffic/knee pain etc is today)
You may not intend to but if you're constantly late then you are disrespecting the other parties time and that's not ok. Let them know what's going on, let them make other choices, don't tie them to a commitment you agreed to but can't keep. Communication is key.
You're allowed to be late, just set proper expectations and give people their time back.
My partner used to be very frustrating like that. She'd rock up 30-60 minutes late to do something and then always have reasons or excuses why, some better than others. All it takes is for you have the common courtesy to tell me, rather than leave me to get increasingly irritated over the course of an hour when I can basically do nothing. Thankfully, things improved a lot after some particularly crummy instances.