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Kind of a follow up from my question from a few days ago, for me just depresses me and usually I'm working or worried about stuff anyways so I don't know how to enjoy festivities, plus being eternally alone without a partner makes things even sadder. Xmas is more of a post it of how much my life has failed.

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[–] Zier@fedia.io 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Do not measure your life by the holidays, any of them. No one is a failure because a holiday is not perfect. And being alone is not always a bad thing. Be thankful that you are not in a toxic or violent relationship. And single people are not losers. Every individual gets to decide how, when and if they participate in social rituals, and holidays are one of them. It's ok to hate them or love them. But it's never ok to make others, or yourself, feel bad for having and making your own choices about social rituals. I personally left holidays in the past many years ago. I'm done, I'm full thanks. And I won't feel bad because someone wants or expects me to participate. And I won't make others feel bad because they don't hold my views. We are all Human, and we all get to decide whats best for our self.

[–] Mickey7@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

***And I won’t make others feel bad because they don’t hold my views. We are all Human, and we all get to decide whats best for our self.


Refreshing comment. Totally agree. If you want to enjoy life never think that you have all the right answers and that you have to impose what you think on others