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i do not believe these words should be abandoned!

my intent is to point out and critique society’s weaponization of words, not the words themselves.

also! this is a descriptive post, not perscriptive

what that means is just that i want ppl to be aware that this pattern has happened in the past and of course the forces behind those happenings haven’t just disappeared. i think pride in being ND and the fact that “neurodiverse” is a word that is created by its own community are powerful reasons to doubt that the word will have the same fate. perhaps i would call this a “call to awareness” post rather than a call to action.

(making this disclaimer because a couple people are violently adamant that i am just trying to make an argument saying all these words are the same and predicting the future, which, sorry you got that impression it’s not true. but now you know!)

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[–] regul@lemm.ee 54 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

OP, at a certain point there has to be a word to describe what is happening. Just because someone uses it in a derogatory manner doesn't mean that you have to abandon the word or that every usage of it is derogatory.

See: gay

Alternatively, make a third meme about it on a niche Internet forum.

[–] knightly@pawb.social 19 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] metaStatic@kbin.earth 8 points 1 week ago

Funny thing is the neurodivergent aren't the ones running on that treadmill.

It literally doesn't matter what you change the word to, that's the new word I'm calling my friend when he does something incredibly stupid.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 3 points 1 week ago

Hijacking this comment to say: I don’t even think the word should be abandoned. That’s an assumption that rugul totally made up.

My aim in posting is to be descriptive, showing the pattern of behavior, rather than perscriptive. I’m not telling anyone what to do or say other than “hey, be aware of how this tends to happen!”

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

We understand that. Tell society that. We're not exactly the march in the street crowd so when we get yelled at we go back to the corner and think of a new name.

[–] inv3r5ion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Maybe don’t go back in the corner? You need to learn to stand up for yourself otherwise you’ll just be bullied for the rest of your life.

Not just you, anyone with this attitude.

Oh boo fucking hoo they’re mean to you? Be even meaner.

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Or we could just not be mean.

[–] inv3r5ion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

And let people walk all over you and then complain about being the victim. Mean people don’t deserve kindness, they deserve the same energy they’re giving out.

Taking the high road doesn’t work.

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

It's not kindness, it's nothing. They don't need to be in my life. I don't need to be in their establishment. My mean quota for my life is already full.

[–] Zoomboingding@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

The sad reality is that people will always be mean.

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

Then they can be mean to someone else. I don't have the time to deal with that in my life.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 2 points 6 days ago

honestly i love being mean. especially to people who have been mean to me.

but! it’s trivial when i’m mean to use insults that don’t implicate the identity of disabled people or other marginalized groups

cc @Maggoty@lemmy.world @inv3r5ion@lemmy.dbzer0.com

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Just because someone uses it in a derogatory manner doesn’t mean that you have to abandon the word or that every usage of it is derogatory.

I never said that anyone should abandon the word?!? In fact, I would far prefer reclaiming of slurs that reempowers the disabled community with their own language. But you didn’t know that because instead of asking you jumped to an entirely different topic.

This is you right now.

[–] regul@lemm.ee 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe -1 points 6 days ago

go away troll 🥱