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What makes life unfair to you? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 1 week ago by Pyrin@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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When all of your exes get to happily move on in relationships that aren't you and you get nobody for extended periods of time.

While you're prideful in yourself to know that whatever relationship you get won't feel as tainted as theirs because maybe they're manipulative. The thing about it is that, I've tried being upfront, honest, detailed and everything to get someone with.

And I guess working on yourself and trying to improve aren't exactly attractable qualities.

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[–] Hoohoo@fedia.io 10 points 1 week ago

Dating is hard. 9 out of 10 actual dates are strike outs for a second date. Upping your batting average requires you to be the ideal candidate where you are dating.

Mastery of something has a 90% proficiency requirement. The odds stack up enough against a person to the point that any apathy at all might cause them to fail horribly.

Life isn't unfair as such. It's between hard and impossible. You really need everyone on your team to make it all work.

My advice would be to help those that will help you and never short them when it's your shout. Remember names when you meet people, and don't get distracted when you should be thinking about their lives. Every little interaction will be the light in your eyes and the magnetics in your charm. Start by lighting up your world and make people resonate when they're around you. And travel a bit to meet people with added charm