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You post stuff like this a lot. You keep talking about being lonely, or about being sad, or things in that same spiral. You clearly know what the answer is, but you refuse to listen to it or accept it, but you STILL ask the question. At a certain point, I have to wonder if you LIKE being miserable.
As harsh as it is to say, I think you need to get over yourself.
Get help. If you can't afford a pro, get an amateur to talk to. There are low-cost helplines and support groups around the world. Don't just come up with a reason why you can't do it. You can. All that remains is whether or not you will.
If you've never had major depression then this take might make sense. Honestly if you don't struggle with depression I'll kindly ask you to fuck off because you have no idea. When you spend a whole day thinking about how you need to clean the litter box and eat, which will take 30 minutes or less, but it takes you 14 hours to motivate yourself to do those things, then you might understand.
They're asking for things they can do, so I'm assuming they're able to do things. So if they have the ability to do something, they have the ability to go and get help. It's not a motivation issue.
My issue is they're asking a question they know the answer to, but they want a different answer. And it's not the first time they've done that.
Incorrect and no, your solutions are not available for me.
Why not?
Also, I’m willing to talk to you so long as you promise not to dox me.
Bro is a is giving off some strong "have you just tried being happy bro?" Vibes.
No, I know it's a difficult journey. My bestie struggled with hers for a long time. But she wasn't defined by her depression. She went and got help to deal with it. Even with help, she still struggled, but less than she would have otherwise.
Meanwhile, this person has a solution in front of them, and they spend more time coming up with reasons it won't work than actually trying to do it. Help IS available, as people keep pointing out. Heck, last time they posted something like this, I responded with a list of support hotlines by region on wikipedia.
As far as I can see, the only think stopping them from getting help is themself. So they need to get over that obstacle.
Then you need to see farther bro.
Lame.