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I have a wonderful senior dog and he’s my best friend. And I’m so scared of his aging. As he’s slowing down and I keep an eye out for medical issues I just can’t imagine how and when to make a call about his life.

I work all day away from home and live by myself, which was not the situation when I’d adopted him initially. I don’t have a community or friends or family around to help during the day if and when it comes to that. I can’t afford dog sitters especially not ones with training.

What if he could be fine with more support and money, should I give him back to animal rescue?

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[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago

I've had to make the call on senior pets about four times now, and it's tough. Sometimes it's easier, when they're in visible and obvious pain and sometimes it's hard, when there's no one thing you can point to. The lovely home vet who helped my last senior kitty pass said it helps to keep track of the good days and bad days. If your pet is affectionate, playful, can get excited, that's a good day. If they hide, lie in quiet places and aren't interested in things they usually love then that's a bad day. When the majority of their days are bad days, it's time.

I wouldn't think your dog would have better care in a shelter, even if you're feeling guilty about being away a lot. Maybe there's a way to shift your schedule to have more time with your dog when he's most active, or maybe there's a local kid who wouldn't mind hanging out with your dog on certain days. It's worth exploring more options because a shelter will almost certainly be a worse experience for him.