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For example workplace harrasment by women towards males like touching or groping being ignored because the victim is male but if it where to happen to a woman by a male the male would be fired

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[–] mods_mum@lemmy.today 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Dress code at work. I work in investment banking. On a hot summer day I have to wear smart shoes, black socks, long trousers, long sleeved shirt. Women can wear whatever. It's fucking horrible

[–] ezmac@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Go get the traveler suit from suit supply and some lightweight wool /cotton shirts, NOT the “performance” ones made of plastic. I live in the Deep South and I’m a consultant. This is so much better in the hot summer.

[–] mods_mum@lemmy.today -2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It does not address the problem at all. Attire requirements in big office settings are typically anti-men.

[–] ezmac@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Yea, of course changing the materials of your clothes doesn’t change society as a whole. My point is that I work in an industry with a similar issue and have found a way to be comfortable, using fabrics and construction styles that breathe properly and are built to be cooler, mimicking some of the lightweight stuff that the women wear.

It IS helpful and this isn’t an anti-men thread, it’s an asklemmy about dealing with double standards. To be honest investment bankers work such long hours I’m surprised OP sees the daylight/unairconditioned spaces at any frequency to be able to complain about this

[–] MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It wasn't always this way. When I first started working in the early 70s, women weren't allowed to wear trousers at work. Or have bare legs, even in summer. Women called bullshit, and the rule was relaxed in most places to allow us to wear trouser suits. But as late as the mid-80s I was chastised for wearing trousers at work. I had to point out that the then prime minister, a woman, wore trousers at work!

If you want the dress code to change, then lobby for it to change. I honestly feel sorry for men locked into their own notions of what they're "allowed" to wear. I remember a friend whining enviously about how breezy my summer skirt looked. I suggested he wear a skirt himself. "I can't! People would think I'm gay." Sigh.

Also - men used to make an effort! https://media.newyorker.com/photos/5ec9401b929e439dacc2a56a/master/w_1280%2Cc_limit/Piepenbring-Codpiece02.jpg https://www.thecultureconcept.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/404448.jpg

[–] mods_mum@lemmy.today 0 points 3 months ago

As someone born in 1980 in Poland I was oblivious to women struggles with attire in the not so distant past. Thank you for sharing your perspective. And I love your sense of humor, those baroque outfits are hilarious