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The thing I got tired of seeing was people acting like someone going to an advice sub meant they had to take what advice was given like it was some choose your own adventure story for the people replying. Some would even get enraged that OP would push back against things said or would treat it as a chance to play Sherlock and figure out that OP is the sinister bad guy in the story and half of it is lies. And sure, maybe that's sometimes the case, but if you stop going from OP's account, you're just making up a fan fiction.
My advice for anyone reading this: don't blindly follow advice. Just treat it as a chance to gain new perspectives you might otherwise have missed and then use your own brain and first-hand knowledge of your situation plus the other perspectives to decide what you want to do. Even wrong decisions aren't always wrong if you needed to live through the experience of making that wrong decision to learn why it's wrong and know to avoid it in the future.