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You know, like "always split on 18," or "having kids is the most rewarding thing you can do in life."

What's that one bit of advice you got from a trusted friend that you know deep, deep down would just ruin your thing?

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[–] nick@midwest.social 103 points 7 months ago (3 children)

“Bring your authentic self to work”

Was pretty prevalent in tech for a while. Fuck no I’m not doing that.

[–] YaksDC@lemm.ee 48 points 7 months ago (3 children)

I have worked in the same office for 22 years, no one knows my birthday, what my hobbies are or where I live other than "downtown". There is work me and then the real me and never the twain shall meet.

[–] Jasonw911@lemmy.world 25 points 7 months ago (2 children)

You sound like me. Do you want to not hang out sometime?

[–] nick@midwest.social 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sign me up for the not hanging out club!

[–] ohlaph@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] misterdoctor@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You guys mind if I don’t tag along?

[–] qaz@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 2 points 7 months ago

I will say I'll be there, but I'm also going to cancel.

[–] YaksDC@lemm.ee 7 points 7 months ago

Absolutely! ☺

[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] YaksDC@lemm.ee 4 points 7 months ago

Ha! I love it!

[–] berkeleyblue@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

Fair. I do that with most coworkers. I have one maybe two I consider friends and we do stuff outside if work. Those are the people that know me. Everyone else knows the work version of me.

[–] Boozilla@lemmy.world 33 points 7 months ago (1 children)

This is sadly very true. Keep most of your coworkers, especially bosses, on a low information diet. It's like dealing with the police. Some of them will try to use anything you say against you in the court of HR.

This is not to say you can't make any friends at work. Just be very careful in who you pick. Make sure the person is trustworthy (and you know as much about them as they know about you).

[–] nick@midwest.social 8 points 7 months ago

Hell yeah. I only told my boss about my adhd diagnosis in case I need to use that as leverage some day. Otherwise I’m basically a mystery.

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 5 points 7 months ago

"A George divided against itself cannot stand"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X86mbXhy8ks