The reason I opted to send it through the mail is because we had been teasing the idea of doing something penpal-ish for a while for different reasons, and the circumstances with his mental health, birthday, and miscommunications accumulated in such a way that I thought it would fit to start up the penpal thing. And again, it was a leap of faith, because I like thinking that if I break the cycle of distrust, I can be pleased with the outcome. Except we are dealing with an organization that many here would call irresponsible for a reason. I don't exactly like to think the burden should be on someone who shouldn't be dealing with something where the alternatives are killed by matter of norm/law/culture (I happened to wrap the money in a blue letter this time, not sure what that factors into). If you were referring to Lemmy, downvoting on here is meh.