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[–] Shadow@lemmy.ca 99 points 10 months ago (5 children)

Celebrate without buying gifts.

Why do you need to spend money to celebrate? Spend your time with people instead.

[–] Boozilla@lemmy.world 25 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I 100% agree with this. Unfortunately it's also one of those things that a lot of people say but don't really mean. Like when they say it's OK for men to cry.

[–] BertramDitore@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago

Oh this man cries, often. And this man thinks it’s completely natural, acceptable, and often enjoyable.

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 3 points 10 months ago

It's definitely OK for men to cry. Or, it's equally not okay for a woman to cry than a man. Lol

[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 months ago

I totally cry.

I also tend to give gifts when I see something a friend would swoon over, and giving gifts for Christmas is weird.

I also don't really care about my masculinity or if I'm seen as sufficiently manly.

[–] kpaniz@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago

Same thought. I just said to people close to me that I don't want gifts neither for christmas nor for my birthday and I'll never want them. As a kid it makes sense, getting something you really want from someone else because you don't really have a serious job or money at all so it's one of the few chances to get something. Now if I want something I just buy it, otherwise I just don't want it. And if I can't buy it because it's expensive why would I want someone else to spend that kind of money? Plus all that thinking about what would be a good gift. And if it's about "showing you care about me" then really, just say merry christmas or happy birthday.

[–] Lifecoach5000@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago

Everyone close to me knows I ain’t a holiday gift giver. I like giving surprises to people on the fly when they don’t expect it.

[–] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 4 points 10 months ago

Personally I like giving other people gifts. It's part of the fun. Last year I got my brother a drone and he got me a thrifted, pit-stained t-shirt for a band I don't listen to that much. I don't care, I just like to give other people cool gifts!

[–] neptune@dmv.social 1 points 10 months ago

Gifts can be made or affordable