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[–] merridew@feddit.uk 162 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Sticker price isn't the price you pay at the till. Why? Why do you do that.

Massive gaps between the walls and doors of public lavatory cubicles. This is not some mystical, advanced technology. Get it together.

[–] orphiebaby@lemm.ee 32 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We do that because our country is founded on the "right" for moneymakers to put as much onto the customer as they can get away with. Hence things like tipping culture.

[–] LUHG_HANI@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago (3 children)

No offense but how thick do you have to be to make a door that is put in place solely to shield you from other humans, have a massive gap?

It seriously boggles my mind.

[–] Rouxibeau@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

It's not about doing it right for most. It's about saving every dime you can. There are some that properly enclose stalls, like a nationally known Magic card seller in my locale.

[–] Kerfuffle@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

They deliberately do that in some public toilets to discourage people from hooking up in there.

[–] orphiebaby@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't understand the question O:

[–] loutr@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)
[–] orphiebaby@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Oh, that. Because nobody gives a fuck about anybody's rights in this country unless that person has a reasonable ability to sue.

[–] bleistift2@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago

or a reasonable probability to draw a gun.

[–] Draghetta@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Serisar@feddit.de 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The inside of a toilet stall. As you can see it has a massive design flaw from top to bottom. That seems to be the norm in the grand ol' US of A.

[–] Draghetta@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 year ago

Ahhhhh now I get it, thanks. It was a hard perspective to catch up on without the explanation :)

[–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think the toilet wall thing is because we have an expectation that every public building must have public toilets available. Places don’t want you to fuck or shoot up in the bathrooms, so they make them un-private so you hurry the hell up and leave. It’s a bit of hostile architecture, like making park benches that you can’t lie down on to keep people from trying to sleep on them. Make the “undesirables” uncomfortable enough and maybe they’ll go be undesirable somewhere else. Meanwhile it’s just a little bit less nice for everyone else as well.

[–] merridew@feddit.uk 27 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

This is a thoughtful reply. I will just say that the UK also has public toilets all over the place, and a desire for people to not screw & get high in the cubicles. Ditto many other countries. But I've never been anywhere else with this door gap problem, where no-one gets privacy.

I did once use a UK bathroom in a supermarket where the lighting was all blue, which makes it hard to find a vein to inject. But the doors still closed properly.

[–] orphiebaby@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

American here. I like your response and the one you responded to. Thanks for this insight. ^^

[–] spacecowboy@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago

Pleasant interaction ^ Thank you.

[–] atomicorange@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I’m still not sure why there’s a regional difference, my guess is that it’s a quirk of history. We’re more used to it in the US, and there are benefits for the owners of the public toilets, so they don’t change.

How did we get so used to it? I’m no toilet historian but it could be a (horrible, evil) company had a near monopoly on stall design during a formative part of our architectural history. Could just be the newness and utilitarianism of a lot of American architecture in general. We kind of sprung up overnight and so sometimes bad ideas got caught up in that wave of “progress” and became the norm due to being in the right place at the right time, and not really because they were good ideas or ideas that worked. Tipping culture, tax added at the till, and other weird Americanisms could all have similar root causes! Once you’ve gone down the route of something pro-business and anti-consumer, and gotten most people to accept it as normal, there’s no going back in a capitalist society.

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've seen this conversation many times on Reddit, and from what people say I assume there is a regional thing going on on. I'm from a part of the US where toilet stalls do not have massive gaps. There is a big gap at the bottom but too low for anyone to be seeing under unless they are crawling on the floor. Gaps along the sides are quite narrow. 1 cm at most, and nothing anyone is going to be seeing you through unless they are some kind of freak putting their eye right up to it. These stalls are prefab panels you can easily put into a room. The gaps mean ventilation for the room takes care the stalls too.

I assume stalls started this way and became normalized, and in some parts of the country they've gotten sloppier, and sloppier, and normalized these huge gaps I hear people describe but never see.

This might be my bias, but I assume these are the places where everything is a suburban stripmall wasteland, where there are no sidewalks, and where it seems to me the whole environment is increasingly dehumanized.

[–] merridew@feddit.uk 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Thank you for your comment. I can't speak for the entire world, but in the UK a 1 cm" gap in the door of a public toilet would be massive and unacceptable. It's not enough that someone can only see into a stall through a gap in the door if they are "right up to it"; they should not be able to see in at all. Public toilets in other countries have doors with gaps you can't leer through at all.

Re. the "gaps meaning ventilation", surely the "big gap at the bottom" and the fact that the whole top is open will be contributing more to ventilation?

You say you think this might be a regional thing in the US. Okay, could be. I have personally encountered this issue in Washington, California, North Carolina, DC, Massachusetts, Georgia, Texas, Oregon, Ohio, Illinois, Indiana, Virginia, Pennsylvania and Maryland.

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I can understand that to someone not used to this, any gap at all might be troubling and one might tend to exaggerate it as "massive".

However note that these walls are fairly thick which narrows any visibility angles considerably. So to really see someone through the gap you would have to be at exactly the right angle and looking straight at them. Sitting on the toilet in one of these you can see some really narrow strip of the sinks area which also reflects the areas in which someone would have to be and looking straight at you to see you. People at the sink area have their back to you. People walking past them to another stall, are not looking to the side.

I'm not trying to convince you that they are ideal, or that your should like them, just that when the gaps are pretty narrow it is not as big a deal as you might think to get used to.

Again this is assuming these gaps are pretty narrow. I get the impression from what some Americans have said in other discussion that in some places they are quite a bit wider than I am used to, and what I said above may no longer apply.

[–] merridew@feddit.uk 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Oh, I absolutely believe that people in America can accept it's "not as big a deal as you might think".

This is a thread about things about America that make no sense. So: I don't understand why America, seemingly uniquely, accepts this as "not a big deal".

It's weird. Land of the free, home of the public toilets strangers can see inside. So odd.