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[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 351 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I laughed and my partner ask why. I told her it’s some really nerdy humor. She was fine not hearing the joke, but I loosely explained it anyway. She humored me anyway. She’s a good woman.

[–] pythonoob@programming.dev 96 points 1 year ago (3 children)

God my wife would just stare at me and then go on with her previous conversation.

[–] victron@programming.dev 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

My wife would just kiss me so I stfu

[–] lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] victron@programming.dev 2 points 1 year ago

Me neither lol I know when I start nerding out and thank her for putting up with it

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 38 points 1 year ago

My boyfriend is completely technically illiterate haha. But he's such a good boy otherwise

[–] Moc@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I too think your partner is a good woman

[–] NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social 6 points 1 year ago (10 children)

I don't understand this partner thing.

Idk why, it just bothers me to hear someone say that instead of girl/boyfriend or Significant Other.

It just sounds so damn clinical.

That said, I also choose this person's partner.

[–] Zagorath@aussie.zone 37 points 1 year ago (2 children)

To me, partner seems so much less clinical than "significant other".

Partner is good because it says nothing about gender, which is good if your partner does not conform to a gender binary, but also just if you don't want to reveal their gender either to prevent people being weirdos about it—like they often can online, especially if you say it's your "girlfriend"—or to protect yourself if, for example, you're in a same-sex relationship. But it also says nothing too specific about the status of your relationship. Are they your girlfriend? Fiancée? Wife? Something less conventional? If it's not important to the story, why not leave that detail out?

[–] spauldo@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had a partner when I opened a computer shop back in the day. Closest I've come to having sex with him was the time I saw his wife topless through the window.

Significant Other is much more specific.

[–] RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz 8 points 1 year ago

It's also much weirder sounding. You know what sort of partner they mean from context (same as you know if someone means girlfriend girlfriend or a friend that is a girl)

[–] NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Significant other checks all those boxes as well

[–] Zagorath@aussie.zone 1 points 1 year ago

Sure, but like I said, significant other feels a lot more clinical and cold than partner.

[–] thebestaquaman@lemmy.world 27 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Some languages - specifically Norwegian that I know of, don't have separate words for "boyfriend" and "girlfriend". In Norwegian we have the word "kjæreste" which can be directly translated to "dearest". To me it always feels a little weird to use "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", i guess the same could be true for other non-native english speakers.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago

Dearest is nice. I'm going to share that with my kjæreste.

[–] rikudou@lemmings.world 2 points 1 year ago

Yep, sounds weird for me as well. We have separate words for boyfriend and girlfriend, but those have a kinda deeper meaning*, using "girl" and "friend" to describe someone who's really close to me is extremely weird. Like, the days she could be called a "girl" are in the past and calling her the same term as I call for example my work friends is just weird. So in my language I do use the equivalent of "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", but almost never in English.

* The word comes from a word for close friend and nowadays basically isn't used to mean "friend" anymore. I mean, it still does, but no one uses it that way. And even then it signifies some deeper connection between people compared to our more common word for "friend".

[–] Moc@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My fiancé asked me to start calling her partner because she was sick of being called girlfriend after 8 years

[–] Deebster@lemmy.ml 30 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When you get married you can call her your ex-girlfriend

[–] Moc@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Don't. They don't think it is as funny as we do.

Been there, done that.

[–] scubbo@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Personally I (a straight person) use it in an attempt to normalize the term, so that people who want to conceal the gender of their partner have plausible deniability. If all straight people say "girlfriend/boyfriend", then anyone saying "partner" is outed as "a non-straight person trying to conceal the fact".

EDIT: but also, it connotes a deeper level of trust, support, intimacy, etc. A "girlfriend" is some chick I fool around and have some fun with; a "partner" is someone with whom I'm building a life together.

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 5 points 1 year ago

I'm bi, but my appearance is pretty queer coded such that cis-het people tend to read me as "unclear gay or just tech-nerd punk". I've found that when I use the word partner, it can throw people off because they're clearly fishing for my partner's gender in a "I can't tell whether this person is straight or gay" way. Most of the people I've dated have been men, but I do like the chaos energy of the confusion

[–] NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I understand the gender thing that is why i added significant other in there

[–] MBM@lemmings.world 1 points 1 year ago

Significant other sounds so nuch more clinical to me. Language is weird

[–] alan@im-in.space 3 points 1 year ago

@NoIWontPickaName @scubbo As someone with a non-binary partner, thank you for your service

[–] MajorHavoc@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I do the same, and started for the same reasons.

To me it feels like a simple enough courtesy.

Though I'll admit now that I also really appreciate the additional privacy provided by the habit, now that I have it.

[–] MonkderZweite@feddit.ch 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Because she's a woman and not a girl? (don't shoot me, im not english native. But Partnerin is the same)

[–] NoIWontPickaName@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

In English we use girlfriend and boyfriend regardless of age.

It's a weird quirk, but it's a quirky language.

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Some old nuts don't like to hear that I've been living with my girlfriend for years.

[–] MajorHavoc@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah. That's another reason I try to help normalize terms like "partner".

It's so much shorter to say than "fuck off, this is who I choose to spend my life with, the details are no one else's business."

Maybe we could get an acronym though. That could help. FOTIWICTSMLW,TDANOEB

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 year ago

I find it interesting to hear you say this, to me, partner feels like quite a warm term. I think probably because for me, I associate the word partner with a sort of "levelling up" of a relationship, where you're not just two people dating, but two people in a partnership to help each other be the best they can be.

I do agree that it feels clunky sometimes though. I was catching up with a friend recently who paused just before the word "partner" every time. I pointed it out and we laughed at the relatable awkwardness of not feeling like you have a correct word when "girlfriend" doesn't fit. He said that partner didn't feel right either, but it was the closest he could find.

I don't recall ever hearing significant other irl, though I do sometimes see it online as SO. To me, that feels more clunky than partner.

[–] Gsus4@feddit.nl 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It's fine, we're all "users" here with 0 or more "partners". Partners are second degree users who occasionally are first degree users too.

[–] MajorHavoc@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I use gender neutral terms for my partner when posting online because anyone who thinks they need to know my or their gender for our anonymous online interaction is probably someone who I would prefer not know that detail of my life.

As a bonus, I provide some safety-in-normalcy for others who would actually get treated worse were there situation known.

[–] KingJalopy@lemm.ee 14 points 1 year ago

She's literally the person in this meme

[–] cybermass@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 year ago

Gotta keep that one around

[–] writeblankspace@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

if only all my friends were like that

They definitely tolerate my nerdiness, but they just don't get it, even after an explanation.