That's a nice take! It is indeed the absurdity of it all that probably does it. My comment was more of a shower thought inspired by this post than a direct reaction to it.
As you can probably tell from my choice of pronouns, I'm still figuring out what the concept of "being gay" even means to me. Though there's probably no point to doing so. Which only makes being called gay even funnier to me.
That, and of course the ridiculous concepts of what does and does not make you gay, that are going around. But that's part of the original joke.
Oh yes, definitely. Having rough edges, or a bad side humanizes a character, which has been proven to lead to more relatable and likeable characters. It's the driving force behind the whole antihero thing.
The good examples are definitely out there, but all of them are niche and the problem is likely that big productions are afraid of taking a risk by not trying to please everyone. Which also explains why recent large productions all have this shitty writing that feels artificial. Doesn't matter if it's feminism, LGBTQ+ themes, representation of ethnic minorities or just the cookie cutter cis white protagonist. They manage to enshittify everything by playing it safe.