HalfSalesman

It sometimes depends on the programmer's situation. Maybe its "lose a ton of credibility or live on the street/lose your H-1B Visa"

Sometimes its either ship something broken or lose your job.

I say this as an autist who used to fucking loathe talking on the phone: Its that the phone takes up too much mental energy and time, yet has a time limit on your own responses. Its hellishly stressful when you are socially incompetent, and now a lot of even non-autistic people are becoming socially incompetent.

Now its funny, I hated phone calls back when everyone liked them. Now I'm pretty OK at them because I worked at a call center for a year and now it seems like everyone now hates phone calls. I kinda recognize that the one nice thing about phone calls is there is no "set up your account before ordering your food" type bullshit. There is a consistency to phone calls.

Its a mistaken desire to not have to actually work to live via turning hobbies into one's job. The phrase "If you enjoy what you do you'll never work again in your life" in application.

It doesn't work.

I want a hug.

I don't know that I agree that you have to but sure that's not an unreasonable policy either. I guess it depends on the specifics for me.

Thanks! I sometimes end up a little verbose but its nice that my inclination to ramble about this stuff is appreciated!

There are groups I'm already a part of, they don't meet that often though and in both groups I go to they're kind of not fertile ground for dating. I probably just need to expand a bit but there is a mental barrier to going somewhere new and worrying about being the newbie. New habits are hard to form.

The situation at my work place is messy for a number of reasons. Its a very small non-profit and there is even some ambiguity over if one woman I'm into and whether she is a "boss" or just an assistant to the real boss. Obviously if she has any real authority trying to date her is a massive no no but its not explicitly clear. And I mean, that's kind of frustrating just on the work side of things too if I'm honest.

Assuming we're talking about a friend/acquaintance, a person can be genuinely sorry but sort of be too dim to meaningfully improve their behavior. That said, if they don't at least give a good faith effort to improve then my patience will wear thin and I'll probably want to be around them as little as possible, even if I end up ultimately forgiving them on the emotional side of things.

Breaking it down, the 'no' comes basically from "Free will doesn't exist so no one can justly be punished and violence just causes pain and a cycle of more violence"

The 'yes' comes from "We're all dead one day anyway and it is intrinsically pleasurable to harm/kill people who have wronged me, my loved ones, or any innocent people. "

The latter is actually a more unethical embrace of pleasure.

On a broader scale though I'm against both the death penalty and revenge/vigilante killing, but I actually think the latter is comparatively less unethical in a vacuum. At least in the case of revenge/vigilante killing someone is getting something out of it.

We Millenials consumed Gen X made media and Gen Xer's pop cultural was very "Its fun to be cruel to weaklings and weirdos, be against consumerist modern life dweebs, and swear in front of old ladies. We're so punk."

Gen X 90's culture being all about being a renegade nihilistic slacker as a reaction to the 80's culture which was a lot more colorful, consumerist, and earnest at an almost saccharine level, even when it was trying to "rebel".

EDIT: To clarify, Millenials consumed edgelord stuff from Gen X, and homophobia was edgey.

This is why you run stuff locally or not at all.

The incompatibilitist consequentialist in me says no but the cathartic revenge hedonist in me says yes.