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I haven't had this problem. Are people pasting links to someone else's post into their post or is this from boosts? Is it quotes? I don't think Mastodon has quote posts, but Firefish and potentially other Misskey variants do. Do you have an example? I primarily use Firefish instead of Mastodon so I am admittedly not the most experienced Mastodon user, but even when I scroll through my Mastodon account, posts and boosts open in my own server when I click them and I can star or bookmark or boost them myself from that page.

I am curious about what's happening exactly so I can understand it better, I hope my questions don't come off as hostile.

Kbin does a better job of putting new posts in front of you even before you have subscribed to anything, so I think it is easier to find interesting things to read. Kbin is newer than Lemmy, so Lemmy had the advantage in familiarity for people. More people had heard of it when Reddit's API drama blew up and that gave Lemmy a distinct advantage when people picked a new platform. Kbin also has some annoyances like not being able to collapse comments and vote buttons being at the top instead of the bottom of posts and comments. If someone has written a lengthy comment, I want to read through the whole thing before I decide how to vote and I don't want to scroll back up to get to a vote button. To reply to a post you also have to scroll through the comment section. In some cases it's good to see if someone else has already said what you are going to say, but in other cases if someone is looking for personal stories, you don't necessarily need to read everyone else's story before submitting your own.

Personally I have this kbin account and a lemmy account as well. My Lemmy server seems to go down more often and the default sort always shows the same days old pinned posts from my server admin that I can't seem to hide after reading. On Reddit, I didn't have to switch sort to see newer stuff so Lemmy comes across as pretty stale sometimes even though there is a fair amount of posting going on.

Even if you ditch the monetization and manage to find a way to keep out third party bots (who will still want to show up and part lonely men from their money), I promise there are a lot of scummy legitimate users of dating sites. Men have to wade through a thousand bots, women have to wade through a thousand jerks who ignore all their preferences and boundaries.

As a woman, my biggest problem isn't the terrible monetization schemes of the dating sites and it's not the bots because the bots don't waste their time on me. It's the users themselves. Many people put fake ages, so you'll try to date someone your own age and get propositioned by lots of people who are of an entirely different generation than you. All interactions are private which means there's no community policing. Yeah, I don't like talking intimately in front of a public audience either, but if a guy is too clingy and persistent with a woman in a room full of people, her body language will show her distress and other people sometimes step in and tell him to back off and give her a break and he might even get kicked out if he is annoying enough. On dating sites the guys with no regards for boundaries can send a thousand vulgar unsolicited messages with no repercussions. The good, respectful men and their messages get drowned out by the flood of disrespect. The fediverse can't fix that problem.

I am a shy introvert and large gatherings aren't really my thing, but online dating is a total bust for me. I found my first boyfriend through AOL in the 90s and have given online dating many tries because I am so dang shy in person and find it easier to write my thoughts than speak them, but the cost/benefit ratio just hasn't panned out.

There is a great Practical Engineering video that explains this risk for anyone who is curious.

Crossing that dam was definitely a bad move.

Beehaw markets themselves as a heavily moderated space and they caught a lot of flack for defederating from Lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works, but even they are still federated with a bunch of different instances. There will probably be a pool of instances that share a fairly hands-off approach and remain connected to all the other instances that have a "we'll federate with anyone" policy. There will likely be a collection of middle-ground instances who defederate with instances that are the source a lot of harassment or certain NSFW material but otherwise don't restrict much and still federate with instances that maintain similar moderation styles. At the far end you end up with places like Gab and Truth Social which are both Mastodon instances that aren't federated at all and are completely closed communities because they only ever wanted to be an echo chamber. The rest of the fediverse or even just Mastodon didn't cease to exist when Truth Social started up its own walled off instance.

People can self select into the kinds of communities they like. The unrestricted ones will only fail if the lack of moderation is such a problem that nobody signs up to any of them.

On mobile you can click the menu button in the upper left corner to get to the thread and magazine info of your current page to follow that thread or subscribe to the magazine it was posted to. It's quicker than scrolling all the way to the bottom of the page.

The next best way to browse reddit is through a teddit front end. The main one is teddit.net, but today I learned there is another one at reddit.lol, along with various others. You can't log in or vote, but if you happen to get linked to Reddit, using one of the teddit sites will let you avoid the ads and will provide a streamlined page.

Do people post much food content on Twitter? I never really used Twitter other than when news stories included tweets so I have no idea what's popular out there.

Beehaw is still federated with most servers, they're not isolated. There are a few that are defederated from for differences like allowing hate speech, but the two big ones were to ease up the moderation demands as they had open sign ups without captcha from what I recall. They were the source of a lot of spam and making moderation a headache. The admins plan to revisit the issue if better mod tools are developed, it's still a young platform and better tools could make it easier to moderate without cutting off whole servers.

This is a news community, not a lousy impersonationators community. It's the wrong audience for this joke. I don't want news posts filled with bad comedians, so of course I'm going to vote against this. Trump gets too much attention as is, why would I want him to get even more attention on articles that don't even have anything to do with him?