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Born in 01. I’m excited to be 24 and have a celebration with my girlfriend and family, but I feel OLD.

What is the cutoff? When do you stop being a young woman?

(I was going to say I wish I was still around 10 years younger when I realized that people born in 2011 are going to be/are 14 and not 5.)

Other edit: It’s been almost 8 years since my Sweet 16. Holy crap. My sister was 6.

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[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

If you are asking it trying to get a sense of how other people view that age, you might want to assist with who are the people around you that are in the same age bracket and think about each of them when they are with you. How's do they act, so they do anything childish. Do they seem different from how they were 4 years ago

I think you are a young person at that age. I'm 20 years older than you.

When i was your age, 911 happened. The world did not feel nearly as complex as your first 5 years as an adult have been.

How old you feel can change on a lot of things but man you have had to deal with a lot in those last few years and today is a bigger wtf Than the last 4 years, even before that COVID you had to deal with the first Trump administration (assuming you are in America) so where have you got to live with the I'm a young adult starting out in the world mindset? It has felt like one looming that after another.

Unless you are one of those that have been able to turn your brain off and not pay attention to the world around you, i have great sympathy for young adults like you. I think you are going to be the generation that defines the future, it might take another 30 years but you and others your age are going to have some strong opinions when you get into positions of leadership and i think it will be great for everyone when you get there.

You feel old, but i promise you that you aren't old, that's just exhaustion from life and maybe it's the way generations are getting shorter.

Tech is where the world has been since the dot.com bubble and it reshaped the world. You were born at the beginning of a line of demarcation in history. I was born in in the pocket before that where the people that taught me didn't grow up in a world that looks like today.

The Internet in your pocket is a new era and you are going to be one of the people that defines what modern humans are.

Products of an environment that changes every 6 months.

You are probably starting to see the world looking at people younger than you in a way you have never felt before, the bandits of DOGE are younger than you.

The highest paid athletes are starting to be younger than you

You are cruising through a threshold that might be hard to grasp.

But you are not old.

Not to me or many other people

If it bothers you know that how old someone comes across as really isn't related to your physical age.

You can continue to think of yourself as a young woman for a while yet, but you still likely never stop feeling younger than your actual age. I know people 15 years older than me that act younger than i feel.

Not all, but a big enough number of women have told me 26 is when they stopped feeling like a kid, but many people have a concern with not being in their 20s, it really doesn't mean much i promise you that you can feel great about your age no matter what it is and that the challenges in life that you need to solve for, and the solutions you need to use, are what make us feel younger or older than you are

[–] Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 1 points 1 hour ago

This is a great response, OP. Read it well.

People from all across the age spectrum (including this group) use the term "college kids" to refer to folks that are generally 18-22. So if 22 is a kid, you are barely an adult. I'm not sure what all is making you feel old, but maybe having good people on your life can help. I have a spread of ages and it helps with perspective. I am middle age 🫣

[–] kevincox@lemmy.ml 8 points 4 hours ago

You can consider yourself whatever you want for however long you want.

If you feel young and people thing you are weird for saying so that is their problem. Young is a feeling not a number.

[–] SeanBrently@lemm.ee 3 points 4 hours ago

As has been said, 30. This is why my aunt Sharon has claimed to be 29 for as long as I can remember. She's the only 29 year old in the nursing facility.

[–] Bridger@sh.itjust.works 16 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

0 to 30: young. 30 to 60: middle age. 60 to 90: old. 90 to 120: ancient.

[–] serpineslair@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago

Damn my thoughts exactly. Those were the age ranges I immediately thought of.

[–] hddsx@lemmy.ca 10 points 8 hours ago

As someone in their 30s, you are a young woman

[–] serpineslair@lemmy.world 25 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

I'd say anyone under 30 is "young".

[–] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 15 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I mean anyone before 40, really. Once 40, you're middle aged.

[–] Flagstaff@programming.dev 5 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

The "young adult" category is usually cut off by 30, though, according to Meetup groups and age-restricted social groups I've seen online.

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 3 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

According to u.s. law, age discrimination kicks in at 40. If you're under 40 they can say you're too young.

[–] Flagstaff@programming.dev 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

I don't understand; who is the hypothetical "they" and why would you get kicked out for anything just for being under as opposed to over 40?

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

Employers can't discriminate against people for being 40+ for housing it's 55+ they can legally say you're too young to work or live somewhere

[–] AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 hours ago
[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 5 points 8 hours ago

Yes. You're still young enough where you don't seem out of place going to bars every friday night, and hanging out of the tops of limos going WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO as the limo drives down the street. The driver isn't annoyed that you're not acting your age. The driver is annoyed that his job is basically glorified babysitter on wheels.

But as a young woman, you need all of the advice. You need to do all the things. See all the stuff. And my advice is to do nothing. Relax, don't do it. When you want to go do it. Relax. Don't do it. When you want to come.

All the advice. None of the advice. Do everything. Do nothing. Life is all about making decisions. Some decisions you'll love having made. Others you'll later regret. Life is all about finding the road that leads to self acceptance and inner peace.

But shoot it in the right direction. We're making it your intention. Live those dreams. Scheme those schemes. Got to hit me with those laser beams! Ow ow ow! Laser beam me! 1, 2, 3, 4

[–] Sami@lemmy.zip 16 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

18-24 usually gets grouped together for census and survey stuff so you got a good year left in the tank before you're part of the 25-44 crowd

[–] AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space 6 points 10 hours ago

And a decade or so before your targeted ads switch from fast fashion, adventure holidays and entertainment to things like lawn care products and orthopedic footwear.

[–] AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 hours ago

😮‍💨

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 7 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Young and old is relative. I side with those saying young is until 40, then you're middle aged.

[–] darreninthenet@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 4 hours ago

Whereas I'm in my late 40s and don't feel particularly old... if anyone describe me as middle aged I'd assume they were joking around 😂

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

I would hope so

[–] morgunkorn@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

anyone born after 2000 is young in my book.

[–] ardorhb@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] schnurrito@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 9 hours ago

I used to think that but for "anyone born in a year after my birth year", but now I look at some such people and realize that all people eventually turn older. :/ OP is a lot younger than even that though.

[–] AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml 4 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks! I’m still young!

[–] Flagstaff@programming.dev 0 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Yeah, come on, of course. "Young" = no one would question the chromosomal health of your baby if you chose to have one right now. So it's in the 30s when that starts to get shaky, but certainly not the 20s.

[–] humanspiral@lemmy.ca 4 points 9 hours ago

Leornado DiCaprio says you got 1 more year!

[–] Bonje@lemmy.world 4 points 10 hours ago

M26. I feel old as shit and it's only gonna get worse. A lot of it is your attitude and environment, something i'm struggling with rn. You can still be young in your 60ies if you have wonderful people surrounding you.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

I'm 43. I say I'm old, but I don't actually believe I'm old.

Don't convince me otherwise.

[–] jqubed@lemmy.world 3 points 10 hours ago

For me (male) even turning 30 didn’t feel “old”; in my mind that was still basically in my 20s. When I turned 31, though, it hit me. Of course, it’s still not old, at most middle age, but hard to say you’re “young” anymore. But hopefully that means mature. You still have a lot of your energy and health, hopefully, but now also hopefully have a better understanding of what to do and how to make the best use of your life for your goals.

[–] MapleEngineer@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I'm 58. You are a young woman.

[–] Atomicbunnies@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

You soldering stuff is pretty awesome. I just joined the other day and ran across your stuff.

[–] MapleEngineer@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Welcome to Lemmy. Thank you for the nice comment.

[–] BillTongg@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

I have children older than you. It's a matter of perspective - I think anyone under 50 is young, and no doubt in 10 years time I'll think the same of anyone under 60. I don't feel that I really grew up until I was well into my 30s, and my career didn't really get anywhere before I was 40, but now before I know it I'm retired. Relish your youth - it'll pass soon enough!

[–] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

Not a woman but I just turned 41 recently. Here’s the secret to life from here on out:

While your body keeps changing (slowly) your mind really doesn’t. So you’re going to feel the same as you always did! This is pretty cool!

[–] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

It's all relative. I'm 62 - from my perspective you've only recently gone from being a girl to being a woman, so for sure a young woman. Of course in ten years I'll be 72 and you'll be 34, and I'd still call you a young woman.

[–] MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.works 1 points 47 minutes ago

I'm 72 and yes, you're spot-on. You're both young! Seriously, if I hear of someone dying at 62, I think oh how sad, so young! Perspective is everything.