Rant

(Saw some random Internet post a while ago about a guy who wouldn’t stop harassing his “friend”)

Seriously, people kept saying that “people of the opposite gender can’t be friends”, and for the specific example I saw, if a woman posts about being friends with a guy while she has a boyfriend, and something happens with her and the guy friend that’s she didn’t ask for, apparently it was her fault and “she asked for it” and she also cheated on her boyfriend??

And people say they feel bad for the boyfriend and that the guy did nothing wrong for having an innocent crush on her if he pressures her into sex/a relationship? It’s always the woman’s fault. “Obviously, women can’t even talk to men besides their boyfriend, totally!”

So… can gay men with boyfriends not have man friends? Straight men and lesbians can’t have woman friends?

A similar thing actually happened to me, a woman, with a guy friend, and I’m dating a WOMAN. (I wasn’t dating anyone at the time, but the guy still didn’t care about how I felt. Even if he said he did and was always like “with your consent, of course”, I knew he didn’t care about who I was as a person or my consent. He just wanted to guilt-trip and pressure me into being his girlfriend because that’s all I was to him: some hot lady who was evil for saying no.

(Of course, this goes for anyone, and everyone can be friends with everyone regardless of gender, this just specifically talks about women because that’s what happened in the post.)