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[–] nycki@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

i always say that a Gender Reveal Party can't really happen until the kid is like 16 years old. the thing people are currently doing would more accurately be called a Baby Sex Party.

[–] kibiz0r@midwest.social 3 points 4 hours ago

Second anthropology professor appears, chastising the first one for being so ethnocentric.

[–] ConstantPain@lemmy.world 8 points 7 hours ago

Gender reveal party is a social construct.

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 9 points 8 hours ago

This is my people. By that, I mean "nerdy leftists who are pretty self-aware in their absurdity, but it can be very hard to tell from the outside, so they are often very cringe to people who aren't of the same story". It's silly, and I love it

[–] frezik@midwest.social 5 points 8 hours ago

Have more gender repeal parties. You're all free of gender. Now let's fuck.

[–] ThePyroPython@lemmy.world 60 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Then technically these should be renamed to "Genital Reveal Parties" but that would imply a different type of party...

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 9 points 12 hours ago

"Child genital information session."

[–] samus12345@lemm.ee 47 points 1 day ago (2 children)

"Sex reveal party". No, that sounds bad, too. "Assigned sex at birth reveal party". You know what? Maybe we shouldn't make such a big deal about what sex someone is born as and let them tell us who they are as they figure it out.

We should just have a 2nd trimester party or something so the parents get to celebrate at around the same time

[–] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 day ago

Only if the professor comes out of the cake like a stripper

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 64 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (6 children)

gender reveal parties, but a pendant shows up and explains it's meant to be a sex reveal party, but due to the more risque use of the word sex, and the ambigious uses of the word gender, communication about the motive of such things are difficult, and a feeding ground for pendants, people who have been marginalised, and oppressors.

I also don't know where I'm going with this. I'm not sure what my next task should be and I'm letting my mind percolate.

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 46 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 day ago

It really is a genital reveal party... Never thought about it that way. Thanks!

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Pedant here, use an Oxford comma.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

oxford deez nuts.

fixed it anyway.

[–] miss_demeanour@lemmy.dbzer0.com 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Was it an opal pendant, or perhaps a cameo?

Also, I prefer French press over percolate.

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[–] sleen@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ambiguous usage of the word is one of the reasons oppressors have such outdated and undereducated views. The less ambiguity the easier it can be explained to the common folk.

[–] ricecake@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

The fun bit is that the word gender was pulled from linguistics into sociology exactly to try to make a less ambiguous situation.

It literally went "what if we talked about people having gender like the French talk about objects?” Much like people, a table is feminine in French regardless of if it has a penis or not.

Later, people decided to use gender as a synonym for sex and complain about using the word gender in a way that's ambiguous with sex.

[–] Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 13 hours ago

a table is feminine in French regardless of if it has a penis or not.

Which most tables in France do, of course.

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago

Gender has been conflated with human sex from the fifteenth century, but I like your explanation of the sociological application.

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[–] candybrie@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Do people feel like you can't say if it's a girl or a boy before they're old enough to express some preference? That seems to be the thing people pick on with gender reveal parties but that doesn't really make sense to me if you're cool with "It's a girl. We're going to name her Alice." without the party. It's not like the party is usually hyper fixated on gender roles. You cut some cake or pop some balloons during a pretty normal family party. Sex chromosomes/genitals are one of the only unique things you really learn about the baby before they're here that isn't generally considered bad news. I guess we could have height percentile parties?

[–] stevedice@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

The problem is that if you do away with gender roles, then a gender reveal party turns into a baby vagina/penis reveal party. It's a creepy concept that is only normalized because of society's hyper fixation on gender roles and we should just get rid of it.

[–] candybrie@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

Very often at this point, expectant parents are basing it on the presence of a Y chromosome or not, not on genitals. Does that take the creepiness out for you?

Do you have a problem with them disclosing the gender of their children at all?

[–] Opisek@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I might guess with such a party you really reinforce everyone's image of the baby's sex and they might be less accepting if the person comes out as a different gender further down the line? Idk

[–] Shou@lemmy.world 8 points 11 hours ago

Doesn't really matter. The moment the people hear it's male or female, determines how people will treat the baby. Put a baby boy in pink and don't tell people, and people will talk to him like they would to a girl.

Whether or not people accept the small chance that the kid turns out transgender, depends on their personal views. I doubt a gebder reveal party is significant. Besides, it's a party for the parents to be. Not the baby.

[–] nifty@lemmy.world 30 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Saying gender is binary is like saying there are only two types of apples, red and green.

[–] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

There are two types of apples: Red Delicious and edible

[–] OfCourseNot@fedia.io 25 points 1 day ago (2 children)

There are two types of apples, red apples and non-red apples. D'ya see? Everything in the universe either is a banana or it is not, all is binary.

[–] fallingcats@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Quantum physics would like a word

Quantum physics doesn't exist, it is invented by physics professors to sell you more quants

[–] OfCourseNot@fedia.io 9 points 1 day ago

Something is in a quantum superposition state or it isn't, absolute binariness.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

chess/similar games/sports :

Women

Open

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You know what it'll be yet?

Yes, they'll be a wage slave.

[–] not_IO@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

i don't see the point they are trying to make, of course it's a social concept, that's why it's a social gathering. that's like going to a party for a doctoral degree and tell them its a social construct, like yeah so?

[–] stevedice@sh.itjust.works 4 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

If you understand that it's a social construct then you must understand that gender reveal parties are crepy af.

[–] bountygiver@lemmy.ml 3 points 15 hours ago

Exactly, just have a single celebration on the birthday and be done with it. Why so obsessed about the genitals of an unborn child.

[–] moshtradamus666@lemmy.world 6 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I'm pretty sure op was just trying to be funny

[–] azantis@ani.social 2 points 21 hours ago

Successfully failed

[–] Gork@lemm.ee 9 points 1 day ago

What's the point of a gender reveal party if not an excuse to use high explosives? There's no fun if something isn't being blown up in some way or form.

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