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It's so bad that my fiancée has some bras that say she's a B cup and others that says she's a D cup. In order to go bra shopping, you have to actually try them on to find out if they fit.

If I had to try on underwear to see if they fit, I might not bother with underwear at all!

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[–] dbbljack@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I cut a check when the boob owner says it's boob maintenance time. Why do I need to know anything about sizing?

Knowledge is power and it allows you to give a wider range of gifts if you know more

[–] Moah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] AliSaket@mander.xyz 23 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Oof, yeah I was about 23 and wanted to help my now wife to get some of the correct size, which was an almost impossible ordeal. Wanna hear the story? Fine:

Taking the two measures was the easy part (and doing it again during her period, because of course the size changes during the cycle, anything else would be too easy). Then I read that the cup size is the absolute difference between bust and band measurement no matter the band measurement. Furthermore since the material is elastic, for a good support, the band should be a tad below the measurement*.

So far so good, went to the store and there are only A-D cups everywhere, E if you're lucky. So basically no matter what exact measure they take between the cups, you're ok if you're thin and have small or somewhat big breasts, or you're a bit fuller and have tiny breasts. Everyone else is automatically screwed. If you're lucky enough to fall into those categories you then have to try on so many to sift through different positioning and forms of breasts until you find one that is comfortable. We had to order some all the way from the UK because it wasn't possible to get anything coming near the correct size here.

*women who wore normal cloth bras before and continued wearing the same size have felt that the elastic hasn't made things better necessarily. Can't find the source for that one right now though.

[–] nifty@lemmy.world 18 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

It’s not that they’re not standardized, there’s a thing called sister sizes

Here https://www.sizechart.com/brasize/sistersize/index.html

Your actual size is the lowest sister size

[–] Bluetreefrog@lemmy.world 34 points 6 days ago (4 children)
[–] Kaboom@reddthat.com 8 points 6 days ago

In theory they're standardized. But in practice, no they're not.

[–] P1nkman@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I've been married for 8 years, and I had no idea 😂

[–] SupraMario@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Never been underwear shopping with the wife? I usually take my wife once a year. Think of it this way. A good bra is like a good pair of work boots. You get a shit pair and you're in pain every time you wear them. Bras are the same thing.

[–] P1nkman@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Yes and no. Sexy underwear, sure, but never a big talk around the vast differences. I told her about this comment, and I got a 10 minute talk about it 😂 no regrets!

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[–] doggle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 5 days ago

Right now, although I'm not at all surprised.

[–] useyourmainfinger@lemmy.world 10 points 5 days ago

Right now..

[–] rustyfemboy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 6 days ago
[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 18 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Trying to buy bras for my wife has been an eye opening experience.

One thing that I haven't seen mentioned here yet is the Wild West of standards once you get to big cup sizes. Apparently DD is the same as E, DDD is an F, and I've even seen a DDDD, which would be a G. Depending on cuts, brands, and styles, her size can go from a DD to an I.

Not to mention these things are like $100 for a "cheap" one. The amount of engineering it has to take to design that shit is probably a few years of grad school.

Not to mention these things are like $100 for a "cheap" one. The amount of engineering it has to take to design that shit is probably a few years of grad school.

There's a reason Playtex got to make space suits.

[–] pyrflie@lemm.ee 13 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

4, listening to my mom bitch about bra shopping on a bench in JC Penny's to my nieces.

Big women with big busts had a pretty hard time finding shit in the 90s.

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 12 points 6 days ago
[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 10 points 6 days ago
[–] prime_number_314159@lemmy.world 12 points 6 days ago (1 children)

When I was 25, my girlfriend complained about buying the same bra, same size, same material, same URL, from the same company, on their website, 2 years apart. The first ones fit really well, the second ones didn't fit at all.

Meanwhile, there's a shoe that I buy a pair of every few years. They release a new "version" about once per year, but the fit has been consistent, so I'm over a decade, and 6 pairs, into my purchase of them, with no problems.

[–] Eiri@lemmy.ca 5 points 6 days ago (3 children)

It's wild to me that people just buy the same shoe over and over. I'm not a fashionista by any stretch of the imagination; I just have one, maximum two, pair(s) of footwear per temperature slice, and I don't even have any formal ones.

But even I would want something new, even if my old pair had served me well.

[–] EngineerGaming@feddit.nl 12 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Shoes are the most obnoxious things to shop for. Buying what you know makes total sense.

[–] lud@lemm.ee 4 points 6 days ago

Yeah, I hate shopping for shoes. Getting shoes that fit well is hard and trying different shoes sucks.

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 6 days ago

But even I would want something new,

They're new shoes, not my old ratty ones

What can I say I found out at 14 that all-blacked converse hi-tops look good on me and so why bother changing

[–] Frostbeard@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

It used to be that any DC skating shoe size 12 for me. Could just pick a model and leave the store. Then they became a fashion brand rather than a skateboard brand and suddenly it was made for tiny model feet.

A got older with an older body I just get the Bondi8 for summer and Kaha for winter as HOKA does wide and quarter sizes.

[–] squid_slime@lemm.ee 10 points 6 days ago
[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 11 points 6 days ago

Right now reading the title of this post.

[–] Vilian@lemmy.ca 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

You all need to adopt metric for bras

[–] Eiri@lemmy.ca 6 points 6 days ago

Honestly even Imperial would help at this point. Clothing sizes, in general, are based on basically clouds and dreams and vary wildly by brand or even by model.

I just wish the world standardized. I don't care how. As long as it's standard.

I never knew per se, I just assumed that like with all women's clothing sizes are a convenient fiction

[–] secret300@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 6 days ago (1 children)
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[–] Fizz@lemmy.nz 8 points 6 days ago

Right now. I just tuned out all the complaining and assumed that it was a skill issue.

[–] RalphWolf@lemmy.ca 8 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Also, sometimes different colours of fabric fit differently in the same bra size.

Most women don't wear bras that fit.

[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 7 points 6 days ago

That inconsistency is not exclusive to women's undergarments... I bought a half-dozen of the same American Apparel hoodie in different colors... very different fits.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 5 points 6 days ago

Yes! Also in panties. Usually black, for some reason beyond me, is tighter than any other color both for bras and panties.

[–] werefreeatlast@lemmy.world 8 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Good thing guy underwear doesn't give one fuck about the shape of the penis. They either mush it into the crutch to defeature the shlong, or they let the whole thing just flap around under loose shorts.

[–] Mediocre_Bard@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Just get a small penis. Everything fits fine.

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discovering saxx was life changing for me, good underwear gives you a comfortable dong pouch

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[–] Biobaron@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 6 days ago

Its even different in different parts of the world. Related Wiki: wikipedia-bra size

[–] Contramuffin@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

Most of the bras that my girlfriend gets fits on her first try, although she does tend to prefer sister sizes over her real size. If your girlfriend is having issues with bras fitting, it might be worthwhile to read up on how bra sizes are actually calculated and do a measurement yourself. Funny enough, most girls don't seem to know how the bra size system works either and they just get their sizes through trial and error, which seems like what has happened here.

The letter by itself is fundamentally meaningless. A 32D is equivalent to a 34B! And most girls severely underestimate their actual size. What would colloquially be called a B or C is actually an E

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[–] noxy@yiffit.net 7 points 1 week ago

I'm gay, so current age I guess

[–] chickenf622@sh.itjust.works 5 points 6 days ago

Now but I had my suspicions considering the trend with women's clothing.

[–] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 5 points 6 days ago

They're definitely defined differently between some countries. Japanese cup sizes are different to US ones

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