Nonexistent! Here's to hoping that there'll be more approachable queer people in university!
this post was submitted on 28 Oct 2024
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Twice married Gen X here. I feel for you all. Genuinely. Had to pop-in and leave a virtual hug for you all.
None of you are commenting on the whys, which tells its own story (and I'm not asking, just noticing).
Imaginary
Awful :I
Met my current partner at work. The funny part is I had given up completely, after going on dates with enough people, but just not really connecting with any. My previous relationship was haunting me, and I carried a lot of damage from it. I just couldn't overcome it, so, I gave up. Then, out of nowhere, this gorgeous, kind, bubbly, and incredibly intelligent girl just showed up in an IT orientation I was leading. We started talking eventually, and we've been together for 2 amazing years. I know it's clichΓ©, but sometimes you find what you're looking for precisely when you're not looking.
Before that I dated on apps, and I can confirm it was hell. It's probably changed in the 3 odd years I was using them, but Bumble was by far the best app, at least in my area. On that app, it felt a lot more meaningful than Tinder or Hinge.
How has your dating life been, OP?
Null.
Found someone nice. It was sheer chance, really. Met with a new neighbor and she had a crush on me. Was friends for a while. Years later decided to get into a relationship with her.
Married my high school girlfriend having our first kid. So... Awesome? Have I won dating?
Sounds like you've dated very few people....
This is why I am asking if I even played the game or I won it.
Yes, congratulations!
in the background Those pesky speedrunners...
Millennial here. I'm playing the patient gamer game.
Good one :)
Say you're American without saying you're American.
I am Slovenian :)
We were dating for 6 years before we married. By your standards should I not marry the person I love? Or should I try more girls until I find a person that matches your standards? Have a nice life.
Also your comment stinks from stereotypes. About people who marry early, about Americans, probably even about people who marry and have kids.
I've been in a stable relationship for a couple of years now, and living with her since January this year
Congratulations! Hope it goes better and better for you two!
aborting approach
Have a primary partner of many years and a few other FWB type situations (enm)
What's that op?
Uneventful. I dont pursue it tho. I really dont see a need for a relationship. Like ive never met anyone who i thought a relationship with them would make my life better than being single. If i ever did meet someone who i thought that about id go for it, but idk if they exist. I find other people are best in small doses.
Shit.