Hexbear is one of those instances that has a bad reputation. One of which is for being anti trans and yet the data says something different, unless they all hate themselves. In my experience of their users though, they're a decent bunch, polite and insightful. Though admittedly, I'm not in many of the main communities on Lemmy, so tend to miss most things.

If you’re cishet in the fediverse, keep that shit to yourself. Nobody wants to hear about your gender reveal party.