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‘More like therapists’: adult virgins turn to Nevada brothels for sex – and healing
(www.theguardian.com)
That's actually kinda cool.
this post was submitted on 19 May 2024
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There's an australian show from a decade or two ago called "Satisfaction" set around a legal brothel that I'm pretty sure tackled this sort of thing (ans a whole host of others) at least once.
As someone raised in a wildly conservative household I found it very eye-opening in my 20's\30's. It put what would probably been considered a very human slant on the whole sex worker industry at the time. Not sure how it holds up nowadays, though.
As a tween and young teen I was fascinated by psychology and "sexual dysfunction" (textbook term at the time). I wrote one of my science final reports (our finals were original reports, not tests) on common sexual dysfunctions amongst American women. My mom was supportive until she saw I was watching a documentary on sexual surrogate therapy that was basically exactly the same thing as described in this article. Even at 14 I could see the benefits of being treated by a trained sexual therapist. Ultimately I went into tech so I wouldn't starve. I did alright but the idea professional sexual therapy always stuck with me. I hope someday it becomes widely available, especially given the current changes that have come with modern human interaction.
EDIT: I think it was this documentary. It's been a while.
I think this says more about our lack of adequate affordable mental health care and third spaces. You shouldn't have to turn to a brothel for healing
And the "therapists" likely need therapy after all the physical and mental/emotional baggage from their line of work.
Wasn't sure if I should share this or not, but I wrestled with it in my head for like five minutes and here we are.
My buddy has been in so many lopsided relationships. Like dating moms who are still married and he's just the side piece. Or dating a foreign girl who visits him in the US, but refuses to leave her marriage in Spain.
We went on vacation together. My wife, kids, and my buddy. And after a lot of consideration, explored the red light district and fooled around with the sex workers.
I don't know what happened fully. But after our trip, he had this fire in his eyes.. He shared how he opened up the workers and how my wife & I's normal vacation squabble made him realize his prior relationships weren't healthy. And he's committing himself to finding a real relationship.
I suppose the moral of the story is that there are many paths to enlightenment and, if it works for someone (and no-one else is harmed by it) then that's the important thing.
A little nominative determinism there
Her husband and business partner is Lance Cummins. It seems too good to be true.
How can they prove someone is a virgin?
From the article:
To receive the discount, men must provide a letter from a mental health professional acknowledging their claim, which Cummins hopes encourages some adult virgins to seek therapy when they otherwise wouldn’t.
You can always tell
The first visit? They probably can’t and it’s just the cost of doing business plus a bit of advertisement and societal good will.
The second visit it would be obvious, though.
sexual surrogacy is a type of therapy!
I first read it as "Move like therapists" and was so confused.