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[–] vzq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 41 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I used to live by that rule, but it turns not everyone likes to be treated the way I like to be treated. So now I just ask how they want to be treated.

Just a trick I picked up from the BDSM subs ;)

[–] thestereobus@lemmy.ml 15 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Exactly. I had to learn this too. I am unusual in a number of ways. When I treat people how I want to be treated I am often mistreating them and damaging the relationship. People are different and need different things. You have to communicate rather than unilaterally apply your self-empathy.

[–] 0ops@lemm.ee 10 points 11 months ago

Yeah, there's a lot of things IDGAF about myself (like my birthdays, etc.) that make it easy to forget that for other people it means a lot. So even if I'm a cool acquaintance I'll be a shitty friend :(. I'm working on that

[–] onestop@lemmy.ml 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

second rule of figh club is you don’t talk about the golden rule

[–] ivanafterall@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

the golden rule

In case you didn't grow up with it, the golden rule comes from Jesus' saying that no matter what it is, there exists pornography of it on the internet.

[–] onestop@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago

i thought that was rule 34 from fight club

[–] Iapar@feddit.de 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Nope, because what you want might differ from what they want. So the rule is: treat people how they want to be treated.

[–] cameron_vale@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

That's a very large thing (the art of treating me well) to be conveyed via such a narrow channel (chitchat). Your best gauge of other people is yourself. And that works very well.

[–] crycry@lemmy.ml 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

This has been my number 1 rule since I learned I was being an arse.

[–] MrSilkworm@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)
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[–] SVcross@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] can@sh.itjust.works 8 points 11 months ago

You know what you must do

[–] Luisp@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I will guess everyone is a masochist from now on

[–] clark@midwest.social 1 points 11 months ago

You wouldn’t be wrong about me!

[–] rmuk@feddit.uk 4 points 11 months ago (3 children)

What if I want other people to fight me?

[–] GBU_28@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

If you're hearing those rules in a basement, from him, good news

[–] Psionicsickness@reddthat.com 2 points 11 months ago

I’m your huckleberry.

[–] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

But this meme breaks the first rule of Fight Club!

[–] Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Ah sorry I'm late. Was too busy sharing with people how awesome this fight club concept is. What's the first rule of fight club?

[–] lugal@sopuli.xyz 2 points 11 months ago

The first rule is don't talk about the first club. The second rule is DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE FIGHT CLUB!

I always forget most others but the 8th (which is the last one) is if you're new, you have to fight.

[–] GBU_28@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago

If you're hearing Tyler durden describe the rules, in a basement, no, you are not.

[–] jollyrogue@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago

The third rule of fight club is don’t yuck others yum.

[–] Arthur_Leywin@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago

That rule sounds nice, but people can have very different expectations. This is a rule that shouldn't be followed strictly.

[–] cameron_vale@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

But what if they doubt the truth that you and all other sane, intelligent people hold dear? They must be dogpiled and shat upon. Right?

[–] gmtom@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

If I treated people how I want to be treated I would get arrested

[–] ShortFuse@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

In Tyler we trust.

[–] AeonFelis@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

What if I have self destructive tendencies?

[–] embed_me@programming.dev 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Then you are a menace to Society Inc. Begone foul creature

[–] AeonFelis@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Are you treating me how you want to be treated?