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How to get over not having a good college experience? (slrpnk.net)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by jerebear39@slrpnk.net to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'm going into my last year of college and I kinda felt like I did college wrong. Like, my grades are good but everything else about college I failed at. Like socially and stuff, after 4 years I barely know anybody. I commuted(to avoid debt, and did so successfully) so maybe that's part of my problem.

But I feel college was supposed to be special time in your life and to me it has been indifferent. :/Thoughts?

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[–] abbadon420@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have the exact opposite experience. It has been a decade and a half for me since I went to college. I went for 4 years, but eventually didn't get a degree, because it wasn't the right career for me. I do still keep in touch with the friends I made.

Now I'm doing a retry in college (2 years so far), completely different line of work and this time over I'm making friends, but the gained skills are definitely the most significant.

The difference is that this time, I don't meet up with peoole outside of school (I have a wife and kids), which keeps the focus on school and away from long term friendships, because friendships are build on shared experiences.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm pretty bad at keeping up with people. I enjoy seeing old acquaintances and friends, but I never contact them. So it rarely happens.

[–] abbadon420@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Me too. I have a handful of longtime friends, but we see each other maybe once or twice per year. We do keep in touch via whatsapp a lot where we watch soccer games and star trek togehter-ish. I don't like soccer, but it's a good excuse to keep in touch with my friends. I feel that it's hard to make new friends once you're working fulltime, so I try to hang on to the once I have.