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I'm really sorry. That's a lot. Sounds like you're having a really bad time. I hope I had a solution for all of this but the truth is I don't and no one probably does.
Even though it's painful to think about, maybe it's ok to accept things aren't fine, though... Cause you know.. maybe they're not. Maybe it's better to focus on the here and now and our inner worlds and come to terms with what we're feeling, have our grieving processes and then be more practical.
To me instead of saying "ït's fine. it's fine. it's fine. it'll all be fine" I started thinking "Everything's screwed and nothing is fine.... but that's ok. that's how things are now. this is reality."
It's like the acceptance of things not being good as a possible state of being allowed me to stop running and I became more pragmatic. Cause it seems that for many, things aren't fine. The world is in a state that has lots of us deeply worried, but among all the chaos and the risks and horrible things that are happening there's us, the few inches in front of our faces, how we feel and how we treat those we care about. And that's basically it. Everything else is just stories.
I decided to accept the world as a broken place and manage the little capabilities I have for the better support of the few I have the power to make a difference on, and idk it's helped. I'm not saying this is universally good advice or helps anyone on a collective level, ofc. I don't know you or what works for you.
My point is we can always come to terms with our grief and be pragmatic about the those we care about, regardless of our different ways to handle it. Seeing the world go to hell is a grieving process too. In my case accepting my own inner pain has at least spared me the pain and fear of running away from it.
I don't know how well this applies to you and I understand it might not be anywhere near what you were looking for. I'm sorry. I really am. The world's a mess and we're all supposed to act normal. I wish it wasn't like this. The problem is it is, and we feel the way we do. So are we just gonna keep denying being overwhelmed? Just keep bottling it up all day every day?
idk. It's ok to be sad, mad, scared and overwhelmed. They're not pleasant feelings, but they're just feelings. They only have power over us when we try to escape from them
You stay strong and take care of yourself. Thanks for sharing and I really hope things get better.