this post was submitted on 21 Jul 2023
15 points (89.5% liked)
Autism
6858 readers
263 users here now
A community for respectful discussion and memes related to autism acceptance. All neurotypes are welcome.
We have created our own instance! Visit Autism Place the following community for more info.
Community:
Values
- Acceptance
- Openness
- Understanding
- Equality
- Reciprocity
- Mutuality
- Love
Rules
- No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments e.g: racism, sexism, religious hatred, homophobia, gatekeeping, trolling.
- Posts must be related to autism, off-topic discussions happen in the matrix chat.
- Your posts must include a text body. It doesn't have to be long, it just needs to be descriptive.
- Do not request donations.
- Be respectful in discussions.
- Do not post misinformation.
- Mark NSFW content accordingly.
- Do not promote Autism Speaks.
- General Lemmy World rules.
Encouraged
- Open acceptance of all autism levels as a respectable neurotype.
- Funny memes.
- Respectful venting.
- Describe posts of pictures/memes using text in the body for our visually impaired users.
- Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
- Questions regarding autism.
- Questions on confusing situations.
- Seeking and sharing support.
- Engagement in our community's values.
- Expressing a difference of opinion without directly insulting another user.
- Please report questionable posts and let the mods deal with it. Chat Room
- We have a chat room! Want to engage in dialogue? Come join us at the community's Matrix Chat.
.
Helpful Resources
- Are you seeking education, support groups, and more? Take a look at our list of helpful resources.
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
I sold some of my employee owned stock from my retirement plan to pay for mine. $3,000 out of pocket. I thought doing it and therapy would fix my marriage, but she left before we got to the therapy part. What a waste. Aspie forever alone I guess.
Relationships are really hard. I'm impressed you got to the marriage part... I've never gotten that far. Almost once. I felt similarly when that relationship ended. I think the journey to truly understanding yourself is the key to being able to have relationships that work well and are fulfilling. I hope one day you will view that relationship ending as a blessing, as I now view that one for me...I think about if my ex hadn't been brave enough to be honest about our incompatibility (which I also felt but was too rigid to acknowledge fully)...I might have been stuck in that relationship for years longer not fully able to be myself and neither of us truly able to be as happy as we deserve. It took that pain for me to begin the journey that I'm on now, and honestly, I'm truly ok with the idea of never getting married or even having a romantic relationship "last forever". Letting go of that need has given me freedom to explore all my relationships from a different perspective. Anyway, sorry you probably don't want to read all this, I'm waxing philosophical.
Thank you. Yeah we were together 13 years, married for 3. We struggled with our incompatibility for a long time. Especially with my asexuality and distance. The Shame was that I didn’t know it was all because I was autistic for most of the relationship.
But I like your prospective. It’s really honest and calming. While losing a relationship is difficult, I still look forward to figuring out who I truly am and becoming comfortable in this new life I have.
❤️