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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted, clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
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It is ALWAYS bad advice. "Be yourself" is the most pointless thing to say to anyone. It doesn't help the recipient at all. Same for "be a better person". You could say "be genuine" and that would be slightly more helpful.
From my background in education: under-performers tend to be poor judges of their position, tend to have no idea what good performance looks like or how to get there, and tend to surround themselves with similar under-performers. So someone who is underperforming in a social role (making friends, fitting into their work place, dating, etc) needs a lot more focused and good quality feedback.
It's because it's incomplete advice.
It shouldn't just be "Be Yourself"
It's missing two important words, in the middle.
Be confident in yourself.
It works fine for people who are Neurotypical. However, chances are you don't need to give social advise to a neurotypical person.
Supremely disagree.
Here's a podcast episode I've heard today to illustrate the example of just how bad most "neurotypical" can be with simple social interactions:
Hidden Brain: We Need to Talk
Episode webpage: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/we-need-to-talk/
Media file: https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/tracking.swap.fm/track/0bDcdoop59bdTYSfajQW/stitcher.simplecastaudio.com/df179a36-a022-41e3-bf7c-b7a4efc6f51e/episodes/1f69dbf5-87e8-41ec-8014-f494020218d4/audio/128/default.mp3?aid=rss_feed&awCollectionId=df179a36-a022-41e3-bf7c-b7a4efc6f51e&awEpisodeId=1f69dbf5-87e8-41ec-8014-f494020218d4&feed=kwWc0lhf
Honestly, sometimes I wonder how much of neurotypicality is just a myth. I don't know many neurotypical people, and the ones I do know don't have their shit together any more than I do.