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Thanks for the tip but I think I'm probably too sensitive for that. But I'm considering it
I think there won't be a solution that's painless. All through life we find ourselves with choices full of compromise. I think take a hard look at all your choices and decide which has less pain. Then start finding ways to mitigate the pain you do have to live with.
Totally a made up example: life sucks at home, so get a job that keeps you busy out of the house for as long as possible.
True!
I was quite sensitive at your age. It took me a while to discover it, but I found that I was far more sensitive to psychological toxicity than I was to physical difficulty.
At the shelter I had to deal with:
Overall that was hard, but it was easy compared to dealing with the decades of psychological horseshit that had built up between me and my parents.
It was spartan living conditions, but I was healthy and optimistic when I was there. Lots of other guys in there were not healthy and optimistic.
That’s just my own experience. And this is coming from someone who considered himself quite sensitive. As a kid I never did anything physically dangerous because I was too afraid of injury. I was a “wuss” as a kid.
Staying at the homeless shelter was surprisingly easy for me. A far less dangerous environment than my home.
Plus it was an aventure that helped me find out who I want to be in life. I pride myself now on my toughness, and in knowing what I need and what’s just nice to have. Turns out I need an environment in which I’m not being psychologically tortured, I need a system of boundaries and incentives that’s clear, and it’s merely nice to have a bathtub where I can take hot baths, and a kitchen where I can cook, etc.
I still consider myself sensitive, but not to cold showers and physical danger. What I’m sensitive to is people loading on my empathy with unclear, neurotic, angst relating styles.
I’m totally sensitive to the kind of depression I get when staying with family. I’m not so sensitive to deprivation and challenge.