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What are some subtle/small influences from your past that help shape the person you are today? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago by Cataphract@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I always forget we are creatures of habit till that moment hits. I have a relative who is a woodworker, but the reality is they just love collecting wood because they worked at a sawmill as a teenager and talking about wood was all his peers did. I also have a friend who wears the same cologne since childhood because a crush once complimented them on it.

I suppose always being the "good friend" (in their parents eyes) made me more sociable, so now I avoid "events" because I just feel like it's a game and I don't want my interactions with other people to feel that way (love small gatherings with a purpose though, the Amish got it right with the barn raising).

What are some that you've experienced personally or through someone close to you?

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[–] Bullybeard@lemm.ee 20 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I once had someone I knew pull a gun on me when I was 14 and had to fight it off them before they could switch off the safety. 11 years later, I still get anxious if I'm talking to someone and I can't see both their hands, they have their hands in their pockets etc until both hands are in sight

[–] kat@orbi.camp 2 points 3 hours ago

I'm sorry that happened to you. So unfair.

[–] 0_0j@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Well.. shite