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I don't know what to do about work tomorrow (lemmy.ml)

submitted 5 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Today at work I was flipping some burgers as usual when a coworker yelled out to me "how to spell occupation" for some reason. She shouldn't have even been on her phone and I don't know why she asked me of all people to spell 'occupation' and why she needed to use that word in the first place is beyond me but that's not important.

I tried to sound it out I just didn't know how to spell it. There were like a bunch of other people they were all watching. I just broke down in tears then and there and ran to the bathroom. It was so embarrassing. I left like 3 hours early as I just couldn't take being there anymore. I can't stop thinking about it. I made myself look so stupid in front of everyone. I know I have to go back there soon but I can't handle the humiliation and + I'm going to be in trouble with the boss for leaving early. I really don't know what to do.

Update: I told my boss that somebody asked how to spell something and I didn't know how to so I got emotional and left. He was understanding but told me never to do it again. Seems like everything is ok, right? Well, he asked me who was on her phone and I told him so now I think that girl got into trouble and now my coworkers are mad at me for being a snitch. FUCK. MY. LIFE.

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[–] kerrigan778@lemmy.world 31 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

You are being way too hard on yourself, go in, act like nothing really happened which is mostly true, if your boss does demand an explanation of what happened all you need to say is "sorry, I had a panic attack." If any coworker asks about it any of the following answers are acceptable "sorry, I had a panic attack" if you want to embellish whether true or not you can add "I was going through some unrelated stuff at the time and it threw me off," and if necessary "I don't really feel comfortable talking about it" it's fine to embellish a little bit because it is, and I really do mean this, none of their business anyways and if they're worth your time they will respect your boundaries anyways. If anyone gives you an opportunity to laugh it off, take it, add in any of the prior responses if you want.

EDIT: Oh, and next time someone asks you how to spell something repeat calmly after me "oh, sorry don't ask me, I get spelling anxiety" It's totally fine. If it's just general social test anxiety then you can expand the line to "oh, sorry, don't ask me, I get bad anxiety under social pressure" Modify further as needed. Again, you're totally fine.

[–] digdilem@lemmy.ml 1 points 4 days ago

Really good answer.