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How would you feel if somebody you knew told you they had NPD? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If somebody you knew like a family member, partner or friend told you they had NPD would you still talk to them? Would it change how you feel about that person?

As someone with NPD I'm always worried about how having NPD would affect me socially. It's so stigmatised and people are always talking about how dangerous people with cluster B personality disorders are. I'm dating this guy at the minute. I really love him but I'm worried about how he would feel if he found out about my NPD. Would he still want to see me after what you see online about NPD? Should I ever tell him? Should I just keep it secret?

As of now I've told nobody about my diagnosis other than a few people at job interviews. What I'm basically asking here is 'How will NPD affect your social life?'.

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[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 days ago (1 children)

So what would be your advice for someone with a cluster B personality disorder? Are we just supposed to be alone forever? Also, why do you even know what you experienced was "cluster-B abuse"? People just think that anyone they don't like has ASPD, NPD or BPD or something. "Phil who was kind of rude to me the other day, he totally has a covert psychopathic narcissistic cluster B personality disorder. I should know I watched 5 hours of Psych2Go videos"

[–] TheBananaKing@lemmy.world -2 points 6 days ago

Like I said, people deserve to know what they're signing up for, and there need to be well-established boundaries agreed to in advance. I wouldn't recommend it personally, but different people may choose differently.

And yeah - if someone just isn't safe to be around, even for reasons they didn't choose, don't want and can't change, then that's correct, they shouldn't be around people. Yes, that's horribly unfair, but existence just sucks. If you have no moral qualms concealing that danger so you can keep exposing people to it in secret... then you've just proved my point.

As for the absusers in my life, kindly go fuck yourself.