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How would you feel if somebody you knew told you they had NPD? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If somebody you knew like a family member, partner or friend told you they had NPD would you still talk to them? Would it change how you feel about that person?

As someone with NPD I'm always worried about how having NPD would affect me socially. It's so stigmatised and people are always talking about how dangerous people with cluster B personality disorders are. I'm dating this guy at the minute. I really love him but I'm worried about how he would feel if he found out about my NPD. Would he still want to see me after what you see online about NPD? Should I ever tell him? Should I just keep it secret?

As of now I've told nobody about my diagnosis other than a few people at job interviews. What I'm basically asking here is 'How will NPD affect your social life?'.

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[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Exactly how I feel about being aspd (sociopathic)

I would judge them heavily in my head and pay very close attention to them to be aware of any attempts at manipulation or anything of the sort.

I understand it's a complex diagnosis and has many facets that aren't inherently negative but ignoring the large parts that are inherently negative would be putting yourself in jeopardy.

But as someone with a diagnosis with the same level of negative connotation I'd be more understanding but still wary.

Not every narcissist is a monster just like not every sociopath is a monster despite the general opinion on the matter.

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 0 points 6 days ago

I agree with you. When I was first diagnosed I didn't believe it because I thought it was the type of thing only serial killers had. I would look into it and I heard people would say about people with NPD so it was hard to think of myself as like that. Overtime I came to terms with my diagnosis and started to rethink my views of others with a similar diagnosis.