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How would you feel if somebody you knew told you they had NPD? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If somebody you knew like a family member, partner or friend told you they had NPD would you still talk to them? Would it change how you feel about that person?

As someone with NPD I'm always worried about how having NPD would affect me socially. It's so stigmatised and people are always talking about how dangerous people with cluster B personality disorders are. I'm dating this guy at the minute. I really love him but I'm worried about how he would feel if he found out about my NPD. Would he still want to see me after what you see online about NPD? Should I ever tell him? Should I just keep it secret?

As of now I've told nobody about my diagnosis other than a few people at job interviews. What I'm basically asking here is 'How will NPD affect your social life?'.

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 week ago

Did you recognize that you're making it all about yourself?

Truth?

By the time someone got diagnosed with it, I would already be sick of the behavior, amd they wouldn't be a part of my life. I've had to do it before

That being said, if the people in your life haven't noticed it enough to be sick of you, telling them your diagnosis is pointless. Work on yourself via therapy, and it's all good.

It's also not something you need to mention in job interviews since there's no accommodations needed.

But that half-joke I started with? It's only half a joke. If you go around telling everyone, you're kinda doing it. Your diagnosis is something you work on in therapy and would only bring up if needed. It isn't something that's useful to anyone else. Now, if you've been having trouble in your social interactions, and a specific person is having difficulty dealing with you, saying that you're aware of a problem and are working on it is a useful thing to them and you.

In other words it isn't something to be ashamed of and hide, it just isn't something to broadcast without a reason.