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How would you feel if somebody you knew told you they had NPD? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If somebody you knew like a family member, partner or friend told you they had NPD would you still talk to them? Would it change how you feel about that person?

As someone with NPD I'm always worried about how having NPD would affect me socially. It's so stigmatised and people are always talking about how dangerous people with cluster B personality disorders are. I'm dating this guy at the minute. I really love him but I'm worried about how he would feel if he found out about my NPD. Would he still want to see me after what you see online about NPD? Should I ever tell him? Should I just keep it secret?

As of now I've told nobody about my diagnosis other than a few people at job interviews. What I'm basically asking here is 'How will NPD affect your social life?'.

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[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

How would you feel if somebody you knew told you they had NPD?

I usually know pretty quick without them telling me, and it doesn't change how I feel/think about them- that's based on their behavior, not their diagnoses

Should I ever tell him?

I would maybe bring it up in a joking/self-deprecating manner, because there's a good chance he puts it together eventually if you're together long enough. E.g., "my toxic trait is that despite being measurably worse than most people on most metrics, I'm still somehow better than everyone" (gotta be delivered right though).

I joke about my narcissism with my family, partner, and clients

Edit: one of the few places I wouldn't tell someone is during a job interview