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First, I think it would be to your benefit to investigate whether this project of yours was even interesting to your grandparents. Youve shared your interpretation of the situation (they are practically homebound and may be missing out on some experience with the wider world), and it seems reasonable, but it does not account for their perspective. They may not be missing anything about the wider world. Or, maybe they are missing some aspect of it, but don't view "digital tourism" as a valid substitute. Most likely though, they're just pleased their grandchild is visiting and want to focus on that, rather than the TV or computer.
As an illustrative example, imagine an introvert and extrovert coworkers. The extrovert discovers the introvert has no weekend plans, and assumes that they must be lonely or sad. They, with the noblest of intentions, try to cajole their colleague into going out on Friday night. The introvert, who has been looking forward to finally being able to settle into their latest novel, is upset that the extrovert is projecting a void onto their lives that they don't see as a void at all.
I'm not saying that that is what's occurring here, and obviously you know your grandparents better than strangers on the internet, but I do think it's a possibility that should be investigated before you commit to any plan.
great run-down!
This is a great reminder about perspective for so many things.
Some people who are married and/or have children can't imagine how unmarried and/or people without children could possibly have chosen that lifestyle and be happy or content. And vice versa, of course.
I'm sure there are plenty of other examples. Your point about extroverted coworkers hit close to home since that recently happened to me.