My personal take is that - as with so many other conservative groups - they're going to act like victims regardless of what we call them, and referring to them politely has the effect of legitimizing their position. I suppose to a naive bystander it might make it seem like two groups of crazy people yelling at each other, but I'd still take that over a polite talk show roundtable any day.

[–] dojan@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I do get where you're coming from, I used to have the same opinion really, but ultimately that changed when I gave it some thought. When arguing with TERFs I don't really expect to convert them, I care more about people that aren't too involved in the discussion to know just how heinous these people are.

Calling them TERFs to their faces will just turn whatever conversation you have to be about them and how oppressed they are, and I honestly don't give a rat's arse about them, and I don't want to give them the ammunition to shoot us with.

I want the term Gender Critical to reflect how toxic these people are. When people Google "gender critical" I want the first page to talk about how misogynist they are. I want headlines that mention how they support the psychological torture of children. I want it to mention how they work with neo nazis, proud boys, and facists to get their message across. I want front and center focus on how many people are hurt and die because of their bigotry.

Because it isn't about them. It's about the people they hurt. It's about the people they campaign for to not receive healthcare and safety. It's about the people that kill themselves because society has denied them the right to live and they don't see any other out. It's about all the LGBTQ+ children that live in silence, and grow to fear and loathe who they are because of the hateful adults their lives.

Those are the people that matter. The TERFs can take a long walk off a short pier for all I care.

[–] Ertebolle@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I get that, I just think 'gender critical' doesn't do the job; it's bland and not catchy, and the 'critical' overlaps with 'critical race theory' which a lot of people have been brainwashed to disagree with.

Whatever mileage they may get out of claiming oppression, TERF is memorable, fun to say, rhymes with a bunch of other ridiculous things like Nerf and Smurf, and is instantly Google-able. And to a typical observer, a bunch of old rich straight cis white ladies complaining that they're being oppressed is very hard to believe. (and of course the Google-ability also means that when somebody insists they're not a TERF you can ask them to name which specific points of TERFiness they disagree with)

It's a suitable moniker for a crazy fringe movement, and a powerful piece of ammunition against them in and of itself.

[–] dojan@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I don't disagree with you.

Though I think "Gender Critical" is a better moniker than TERF honestly - it always baffled me that they think "Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist" is a slur, because it gives them too much credit in my opinion. You can't be a feminist if you also say shit like "being a woman isn't about lived experiences" and "women are the producers of the large gametes." They're essentially saying "trans women aren't women because cummies" which is just utterly ridiculous and calling them feminists give them way too much credit.

Ultimately I think FART is the absolutely most fitting moniker because it describes them perfectly, it just doesn't serve to legitimise our standpoint at all.