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Are men as intimate with there friends as girls are? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 weeks ago by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've had female friends and I've had male friends but for some reason I've noticed that females are more intimate and close to there friends then males are. Is this true for all male friends?

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[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 47 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

I find my queer male friends are willing to be intimate while straight male friends are very shut off and rarely open up. Generally. Of course there's exceptions.

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 19 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Straight people even today live with the fear of being perceived as gay so there very closed off and distant.

[–] Quill7513@slrpnk.net 37 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

everyone suffers in a global system of torture. even the beneficiaries

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 12 points 3 weeks ago

Relatable

[–] jmcs@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 3 weeks ago

A system of oppression can only be a system of oppression and nothing else. It can oppress some less than others, but it can't ever free anyone.

[–] Grimy@lemmy.world 21 points 3 weeks ago

I wouldn't say fear has much to do with it, just how most are raised. Not that it's a good thing that society is built like this mind you, just saying.

If a male friend starts touching me in a way that not even my own father did, I'm just midly uncomfortable. The last thing I'm thinking about is other peoples opinion on my sexuality. It's more about just not being used to it.

Tbh, unless I'm sexually attracted to the person, I find contact uncomfortable regardless of the sex. Probably not exactly healthy behavior but anyways.

[–] BurningRiver@beehaw.org 10 points 3 weeks ago

Careful spraying those broad generalizations everywhere, you’re making a mess.